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The Four Agreements – Singing Crystal Bowl healing meditation

Sunday 4th February at 10am – Singing Crystal Bowl Meditation

Joe Busuttil from Equator Therapies Melbourne presents a two and half hour Singing Crystal bowl healing meditation.
In this two and half hour healing Joe Busuttil will build on the profound wisdom in The Four Agreements and teach you how to develop love and compassion for yourself—no matter what your circumstances. Learn the importance of awareness, how to know what you really are, and how to make conscious choices that support yourself. By starting with yourself and self-love, your entire life is transformed, including your relationships, health, and career.

Whether you’re struggling with self-limiting beliefs that rob you of joy, or just feel that something is missing in your life, the practical truths you learn will allow you to experience more happiness, freedom, and love. Living a new dream is truly possible.

Added with these insights you will be washed with the harmonic sounds of the Singing Crystal BowIs. Vibrational sound touches our bodies on a molecular and crystalline level. The body is a network of vibrational fields and energy currents. Each individual resonates at his or her own vibration. Sound is an acoustical wave while color is an electromagnetic wave. The colors of the rainbow correspond to a specific musical note in the same way that each chakra of the body correlates with a specific tone and color. Although there is a tone and color that corresponds to each of the chakra centers, each part affects the totality. This is important to know since each crystal bowl will affect the whole body. You may feel the effects in one section of your body more deeply, but the vibrational sound will also travel throughout your entire energy field. The human body and the entire earth are made up of energy, vibrating at different frequencies. When out of rhythm, disease and disharmony result. Vibrational sound healing addresses these imbalances or blockages of the energy channels.

The Four Agreements are:

1. Be impeccable with your word. In a sense, social constructivists are correct about words creating reality. We act on what we tell ourselves is real. Albert Ellis encouraged us to screen our self-talk for negative, irrational chatter. So, what kinds of words to you use when you describe reality? Do you lie and say hurtful and poisonous things about yourself and others? Not healthy! To be impeccable with your word is to be truthful and to say things that have a positive influence on yourself and others.

2. Don’t take anything personally. The first agreement suggests that we avoid treating others hurtfully. The second agreement provides us with a way of dealing with potentially hurtful treatment from others. Because each person sees the world in a unique way, the way that others treat us says as much about them as it does about us. To not take anything personally is to acknowledge the unique identities of other people. We respect their subjective realities, realizing that their views do not necessarily describe us accurately.

3. Don’t make assumptions. Assuming that you know what other people are thinking or feeling about you is a limiting thought that Aaron Beck called Mind Reading. Obviously, none of us can read minds. When we try to engage in mind reading we will often be wrong, leading to undesirable consequences. The antidote to mind reading is to ask for evidence before concluding what people are thinking.

4. Always do your best. One obvious reason for doing your best is that we cannot achieve our goals by being lazy. If you do your best, not only are you are more likely to achieve goals, but you will also avoid criticism from what Ruiz calls your internal Judge. There are also more subtle issues about doing “your best.” One is that you should not try to do better than your best. Pushing yourself too hard can cause pain, injury, and mistakes. More subtle still is the recognition that our “best” will vary from moment to moment, that, in a sense, you are always doing your best. Realize this, and your inner Judge can take a permanent vacation.

Tickets:

https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/the-four-agreements-singing-crystal-bowl-healing-meditation-tickets-40957943311

Create your Vision 2018 – Workshop

Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling presents – Create your Vision 2018 workshop.
Sunday 14th January, 2018 at 10am
370 St Kilda Road, Melbourne

Tickets:

https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/create-your-vision-2018-tickets-38795302795

Creating a VISION might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of what you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best year. Think of crafting your VISION as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’l allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.
Your personal 2018VISION statement guides your life and provides the direction necessary to chart the course of your days and the choices you make about your career and personal life. Your personal vision statement is the light shining in the darkness toward which you turn to find your way. It illuminates your way.

– Identify your vision and give it clarity.
– Reinforce your daily affirmations.
– Keep your attention on your intentions.

When you understand how neural pathways are created in the brain, you get a front row seat for truly comprehending how to let go of old restrictive habits. Neural pathways are like superhighways of nerve cells that transmit messages. You travel over the superhighway many times, and the pathway becomes more and more solid. You may go to a specific thought or behaviour for comfort over and over, and that forms a brain pathway. The hopeful fact, however, is that the brain is always changing and you can forge new pathways and create new habits.

Know that transformation is always possible and that you can create new brain pathways whenever you’re ready to make the shift. When you keep your mind in the “I can do it!” space, you get a clear sense that you’re done with the old and on a new beam now.

Come join me for an opportunity to create a clear VISION and manifest all that you wish to acquire.

“Joey’s Vision workshop was a wonderfully transformational experience for me – I couldn’t think of a better way to start the year and it is now something I know I will do each year.”
Nat Brown

“Joe provides a space in which you can explore, laugh and gain great insight into where you really need to head over the next year. Thanks for a great day!”
Leisa

“The Vision Workshop was wonderful. Rather than just pasting images on a board and hoping for the best, Joe broke the process down so that it was really meaningful. It allowed me to see how the year ahead will bring me what I want but also how I can achieve it.”
Veronica Beaumont

Can Hypnotherapy help tap into your purpose in life?

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling we create a space to allow you discover who you are. On this journey the subconscious mind can open up possibilities that maybe closed of to the conscious mind.

Have you ever wondered what you were put on earth to do? How should you make a difference? What’s the point of it all? We’re curious creatures, so chances are you’ve pondered your life purpose at some point. But how should you go about discovering – and fulfilling – your life purpose?
Asking Others About Your Life Purpose

It’s important to remember that no one can dictate what you should do in life. While consulting coaches, counsellors, psychics and healers may bring clarity and comfort, what you do in life is ultimately up to you.

That being said, a great starting point can be to consult a practitioner, such as the ones mentioned above. They’ll likely have access to various tools, techniques and insights to help guide you on your path – or at least start asking the right questions.
Meditate to Find Your Life Purpose

When we’re busy, that little guiding voice inside us can get silenced. Meditation is a chance to be still and tune in to your internal compass – your subconscious mind. With regular practice, meditation can bring forth some pretty profound insights about your life.
Ask What Makes You Happy

Finding your life purpose is about knowing what you’re good at and what you love to do. Often we don’t know how to answer that question, because of fear or self-limiting beliefs. But what if you had all the money, all the time, all the resources and all the skills to do anything? Anything at all. Would you bake? Travel? Write books? Go scuba diving? When you know the answer to that question, you’re one step closer to discovering your life purpose.
It’s Not All about Your Career

Remember that following your life purpose doesn’t have to mean you get paid to do it. Your life purpose might be to help others who are less fortunate. This could mean donating to a charity, taking time off each year to help struggling communities, or writing a book about philanthropy. Or if you love to paint, you may begin by painting on weekends and giving artworks away to your loved ones.
Further Exploring Your Life Purpose

There are many souls whose life purpose is to help others find their life purpose! At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling we can assist you with finding purpose in your life. Continue questioning and exploring, and you’re sure to discover your life purpose.

Using Hypnotherapy and Counselling to heal old trauma

At Equator Counselling and Hypnotherapy we treat many clients with trauma and assist them to find a way to let it go.

Why is it so difficult to heal emotional trauma? Maybe it is because we do not understand what our emotional wounds really are, and therefore we go about healing in ways that can never work.

When I was young, I was in a horrifically abusive relationship that caused anxiety for over a year. Even though I was able to eventually “get out” and save myself, it took me many years to figure out how to heal the deep emotional wounds.

Understanding Emotional Wounds

We tend to think of an emotional wound as the original traumatic experience – as the “thing” that happened to us, but the wound is actually the dis-empowering belief that we developed as a result of the traumatic experience.

In the search for emotional security, our natural response to any traumatic event is to make sense of it. We “make sense” of things by creating beliefs. Beliefs that we develop in response to traumatic experiences are Traumatic Beliefs. Because Traumatic Beliefs are disempowering and painful, they become emotional wounds.

The reason many people don’t heal is because they try to heal the original traumatic experience and not the Traumatic Belief. By understanding that emotional wounds are actually the Traumatic Beliefs that we hold about ourselves and/or the world, we have the power to heal.

When a child experiences himself as abandoned, for example, that child forms beliefs around abandonment in order to explain why he was abandoned. The child may answer the question, “Why?” by creating a belief that he was not good enough. The abandonment is the not the wound. The wound is the belief in unworthiness. In this case, healing involves releasing the Traumatic Belief of unworthiness.

Two people can experience the same trauma and have completely different responses, because they develop very different beliefs about the experience.

Traumatic Beliefs Create Emotional Needs

Traumatic Beliefs always create corresponding emotional needs which must be met in order to heal. The catch is that a Traumatic Belief also creates an invisible barrier that keeps the emotional need from being met. For example, if the Traumatic Belief is, “I am not worthy,” the emotional need is feeling worthy. If you could feel unconditionally worthy, the wound would heal. The problem is, if you believe that you are not worthy, you will block the feeling of worthiness because it does not align with your beliefs about worth. This is also why healing is so challenging.

Traumatic Beliefs are Self-fulfilling and Self-Sabotaging

When we have been wounded, we feel justified in holding onto Traumatic Beliefs. Part of us may even think that these beliefs keep us from getting hurt again, and the thought of releasing them makes us feel very vulnerable – without these beliefs, what will protect us? But, Traumatic Beliefs do not protect us in the first place. In fact, these beliefs are self-sabotaging by being self-fulfilling. When we look closely, it becomes apparent that these beliefs actually cause, attract and create more of what we do not want. All beliefs effect the quantum field that creates our reality, but Traumatic Beliefs have an even stronger influence on reality because they are fueled with intense emotional energy. Therefore, if we believe we are powerless, we attract situations to us that support that belief.

Take Full Responsibility

An essential key to healing is taking complete responsibility for your life and for your wounds. As long as you blame the outside world for your pain, you give away your power to heal. This is not about letting others off the hook who have harmed us. This is about empowering yourself to be whole. If you cannot find a way to take responsibility for your life experiences, then begin by taking responsibility for your beliefs. Regardless of what transpired in the outside world, you are the only one who thinks your thoughts and therefore you are responsible for creating and believing any Traumatic Beliefs. This means that you also have the power to release these beliefs, and, therefore, you can heal yourself.

Why are Traumatic Beliefs so Painful?

Traumatic Beliefs disconnect you from who you really are because your true self could never believe that you are powerless or unworthy. When you accept these disempowering beliefs, you experience separation from your true self and this is the cause of pain and suffering. The pain is your inner guidance system alerting you to the disconnection so that you can heal by releasing incongruent beliefs.

The Higher Purpose of Traumatic Experiences

The higher purpose of traumatic experiences is to point our attention to hidden or underlying beliefs that already exist in our psyche. The traumatic experience activates the hidden belief so that we are aware of it, in order to heal. This is the point. You cannot heal something that you are unaware of. The pain directs your attention to the belief that needs to be healed in order for you to awaken.

Four Traumatic Beliefs

In order to heal, it is important that you uncover the Core Traumatic Belief(s) of the wound. There are four Core Traumatic Beliefs: Victimhood, Powerlessness, Worthlessness and Loss. All Traumatic Beliefs fall into one or more of these four categories.

Victimhood

When I was in that horrifically abusive relationship, the greatest of the wounds was the belief that I was a victim; causing me to live in great fear for many years, even after the abuse had ended. Because I was desperate to heal and have my life back, I finally looked deep into my own self. Eventually, what I understood was that I was feeling like a victim well before that relationship had ever manifested. The relationship overtly demonstrated my inner beliefs in the outer world in a way that I could not ignore.

Later, as an adult, the healing was remembering, at the deepest level, that I was responsible for my own life, and that my life was a reflection of all my beliefs. I discovered that the opposite of victim is not survivor. The opposite of victim is creator. When I remembered that I was the creator of my life, victimhood could no longer exist – and the wound was permanently healed.

The key to healing the Traumatic Belief of victimhood is waking up to who you really are and remembering that you are the creator of your life. Maybe you don’t understand how you created something, and you would certainly not consciously create a traumatic event that would make you feel victimized, nonetheless, we unconsciously create from hidden subconscious beliefs, and physical events in our lives give us clues to these underlying beliefs.

Once we become aware of theses disempowering beliefs, we have the opportunity to consciously heal them, by over-turning them, declaring their falsehood and turning toward a higher truth. In this case, the higher truth is I am the creator of my life. True power comes from learning to be a conscious creator, but this can only happen as we flush out unconscious beliefs and we align with the truth of who we really are.

Powerlessness

Even before we experience any traumatic events, most of us are socialized to believe that the world has power over us. So, when a traumatic experience does unfold, the idea of being powerless is already in our belief system, therefore, powerlessness seems an appropriate way to make sense of a negative event.

Healing from the Traumatic Belief of powerlessness is embracing ones intrinsic power – not the power that comes from control, but rather the power that originates in the core of your being and connects you to the universe and all that is. Healing the Traumatic Belief of powerlessness is an emotional journey from powerless to powerful.

Worthlessness

Of all the Traumatic Beliefs, worthlessness runs the deepest. We are programmed to believe that we are unworthy from the time we are very young. So when we experience trauma, and we search internally for a belief that will make sense of the experience, unworthiness quickly answers the question, “Why did this happen to me?”

Of course, unworthiness is a false belief and therefore it must be exposed in order to be released. When it is hidden, there is no need to pay attention but once it causes pain, you must do something about it. The good and bad news is that the pain will not go away until the false belief of unworthiness is released and you cease seeking proof of your worth in the outside world. The world cannot give or take away your worth because your worth is intrinsic and guaranteed. Absolute healing is attained when you discover and claim your unconditional worth.

Loss

Often, when we have an emotional wound, we believe that someone has taken something from us. No matter how hard we try, it appears impossible to retrieve what has been stolen. This search often keeps the wound alive – believing that we have lost something and it must be retrieved keeps us locked in a vicious cycle of perpetual hurt.

Loss does not necessarily create an emotional wound. We all experience loss – loss of an aging parent or loss of a relationship, for example. Loss is part of the flow of life. Grieving is a natural response to loss and it is the process of letting go. However, if we do not let go, loss can turn into an emotional wound. This occurs when a Traumatic Belief is formed about the loss; for example, beliefs like, “no one will ever love me again,” or “everyone I care about leaves me.” Again, it is the Traumatic Belief that creates the emotional wound and not the loss itself.

When loss creates an emotional wound, we often close down and cut ourselves off from the very thing that could heal us. If we develop a Traumatic Belief around losing love, we not only block potential new relationships, we cut ourselves off from self-love and even higher love. In other words, we do to ourselves what we fear others might do to us.

The healing is remembering that the Source of who you really are provides all that you need, if only you ask, allow and receive – by trusting something greater than the physical self, you align with the rhythm of the universe where the idea of loss does not exist. Inherent in all Traumatic Beliefs is the absolute truth of your existence.

How do we actually heal Traumatic Beliefs?

Release Identification with the Wound

When we develop and feed wounds with our attention over the course of years, we begin to identify with the wound, or, better said, we create an identity around the wounded-self. So, now we are not just releasing a wound, we are letting go of our identity. The thing is, you are not and can never be a wounded identity. This is a false belief and a false identity. In order to heal, it is important that you begin to release the identification with the wound, and that you begin to see yourself as whole – not the wounded self, but the whole self. Who are you without this wound? This is who you really are, and this is who you must become again.

Meet Your Own Emotional Needs

Emotional wounds are often left open because we continue to look to others to meet our emotional needs. In order to heal, we must take responsibility for our own emotional needs and we must find ways to meet them. So, instead of looking to others for love, for example, we must love ourselves. By giving ourselves love, we fill the wound, and we heal.

Transformational Forgiveness

Transformational Forgiveness is not about forgiving another or forgiving ourselves, as much as it is about letting go of the beliefs that keep us trapped – as the prisoner of unhealed wounds. Ask yourself, “Do I want to heal more than I want to hold onto these beliefs?” If the answer is yes, it is time to let go of disempowering false beliefs.

Allow Emotions to Process Through

In order to heal an emotional wound, emotions must be able to “process through” until completion. If we allow our emotions to come up over and over again without resolution, we are actually reactivating the wound and each time we do, it magnifies. Healing requires resolution. This means feeling your emotions completely and not pushing them down or away. The healing comes when you allow your emotions space to be experienced until the process is complete. In order to allow emotions to “process through” you must get in your body. Emotional wounds are stored in the body, and therefore the way to release them is by getting in your body and feeling your emotions until the process feels complete.

Revision

Since the mind does not know the difference between real and imagined, it is possible to go back to a past event and revise it in such a way that the wound automatically heals. The key to successful revision is giving your past-self a new set of beliefs that empower him or her to know your worth, power and connection to who you really are. In this way, you can revise your past-self to speak the truth, set a boundary or exercise personal power in a way that allows your past-self to rise up; ultimately avoiding the emotional trauma or responding to the traumatic event in a way that no wound was created.

Look for a Deeper Truth

For me, my complete healing came from the realisation that the person whom I thought hurt me was actually in my life to save me, by physically demonstrating the emotional abuse that I was imposing on myself. Without him serving me in this way, how would I have been able to identify my feelings of victimhood, worthlessness and powerlessness that I carried from childhood? By understanding this deeper truth, my emotional pain transmuted into gratitude. There is always a deeper truth. If you haven’t uncovered a truth that sets you free, go deeper, and keep going until you find it.

Rise Above

Every thought and belief has a coinciding vibration. Fear is at the low end of the vibratory spectrum while love is at the high end. Emotional wounds are low vibratory beliefs about oneself and/or the world. The wound exists at a low vibration and it keeps you stagnated at this low vibration. If you were to consistently raise your vibration to a higher vibration and keep it there, the wound could not exist. In other words, if you turned your full attention toward love and forgiveness, the wound would dissolve because it cannot exist at a high vibration.

The Commitment to Heal

Healing requires commitment and consistency. Because trauma wires your brain for disempowering beliefs, emotional healing requires the re-wiring of your brain for empowering beliefs; this involves the development of new conscious thought patterns that are consistently practiced over a period of time.

Enlisting the help of a healing professional to assist you may exponentially quicken the healing process, but in the end you must do it for yourself. In healing yourself you discover the strength, courage and power to live your life the way it was intended to be lived. If you are here to help others heal, maybe you access the skills to do so, that could not have been acquired in any other manner than going through the process yourself.

The ultimate healing is the awakening to your power and worth. You cannot remember that you are unconditionally worthy and intrinsically powerful and still maintain emotional wounds. There is nothing that cannot be healed through the power of knowing your Real Self.

Joe Busuttil

Eliminate Procrastination with Hypnotherapy

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne we treat clients with procrastination and help them to understand what makes them feel stuck.

The Procrastinator’s Code states: “Don’t start today what you can put off until tomorrow.” The trouble is, of course, that tomorrow comes and the task remains – plus you waste the time and energy making excuses.

Webster’s Dictionary defines “procrastinate” as “put off until another day or time; defer; delay.” This implies that any time you defer action you are procrastinating. There are times when delay is a good decision. But recurrent procrastination means trouble.

Negative consequences of procrastination include such things as turning in incomplete work, getting lower grades, failing a class, or losing a job.

The Procrastinator’s Cycle:

– I’ll start early this time.
– I must start soon
– What if I don’t start?
– There’s still time.
– Something’s wrong with me.
– A final choice: to do or not to do.
– The promise: I’ll never do this again!

Sound familiar? This page explains steps you can take to start breaking this cycle.

Set and Achieve Goals

Procrastinators are terrible goal setters. They set vague (“I’ll do some math problems soon”) and/or unrealistic (“I can research and write my entire term paper on Sunday”) goals.

To set effective goals, follow these guidelines:

– Break large goals into smaller manageable components (“I will start my research paper by finding sources in the library”).
– Make your goal specific (“I will go to the library tonight at 7 o’clock”).
– Make it measurable (I will find five sources tonight”).
– Set a reward for successful completion (“If I find five sources for my paper I can watch Letterman”). The key here is not to reward yourself unless you have accomplished the task.

Set an Environment of Success

Procrastination often means placing yourself in situations where it is difficult to begin or remain on task. Pay attention to your actions and surroundings when you’re avoiding a task. Who or what is distracting you?

Recognizing distractions is one step to changing your situation. You must also learn to recognize the people and situations that help keep you on task, then seek them out. Once you learn to recognize both positive and negative influences, you can begin to make better choices regarding your time.

Timing is Everything

Procrastinators tend to underestimate the amount of time involved in any one task or project. They end up doing all-nighters or skipping everything else (work, other classes – sound familiar?) to finish. Managing your time effectively can help you combat procrastination.

Procrastination Busters

1. List the benefits of completing the task. List the consequences of not completing it. Make a conscious choice between the two.
2. After you set goals, tell people who will check your progress.
3. When you notice yourself procrastinating, plunge into the task. Don’t lurk in the shallows; jump into the deep end.
4. Deliberately choose to procrastinate. If you can choose to do it, you may find you can choose not to procrastinate.
5. If you find yourself putting off the same thing over and over again, reexamine its priority. Maybe you don’t need to do it.

To make an appointment calls Joe Busuttil on 0412 277 488

Anxiety in todays busy world.

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling anxiety is one of the main presenting issues clients come in to get assistance. As we get busier, I have noticed our anxieties are getting more and more present. I treat clients with counselling and clinical hypnotherapy to find realistic solutions to help clients manage their anxiety.

No one wants to live with anxiety. If you’re starting to feel as though anxiety and panic are starting to make it difficult to maintain emotional and physical stability, it’s time to take action – to learn strategies that will help you cope with that anxiety.You should always consider professional help. There are countless skilled therapists and counselors that can train you in new ways to treat you for your stress.

Dealing with anxiety is not easy. One of the benefits of professional help is that it gives you someone to keep you accountable, and provides you with validation that what you’ve done thus far has been working.

It is possible to deal with anxiety on your own. But in order to do so, you have to be able to commit to lifestyle changes, avoid some of the most common anxiety fueling behaviors, and be ready to hold yourself accountable for your changes.

Things to Avoid With Your Anxiety

It starts with what to avoid. Many people don’t realize that they are unintentionally contributing to their own anxiety. Only by avoiding common anxiety mistakes will you be able to cope. Some examples include:

Moping
Coping with anxiety requires you to take action. But stress makes you want to mope. Spending time alone, in silence, with your own thoughts can be nice once in a while, but often thoughts are your enemy when you have anxiety. Distractions, staying active, and trying to be as social as possible are important.

Bad Foods
Diet does play a role in anxiety. Those with panic attacks should avoid caffeine, because they seem to be a trigger of panic. Fattening foods, refined sugars, alcohol, and fried foods also exacerbate anxiety symptoms. Eating habits don’t usually “cause” anxiety, but they make it worse, and the worse your anxiety symptoms are the more your anxiety will bother you.

Anxiety Producing Stimuli
Anxiety is a cumulative condition. The more anxiety you experience in your daily life, the more your other anxiety symptoms get worse. That means that you should avoid horror movies, dark alleys at night, spending time with people that are reckless – anything that produces anxiety should be controlled, to avoid the anxiety from getting worse.You also need to avoid falling back into your old anxiety habits. Coping with anxiety is about commitment, so assuming you’ve corrected your anxiety problem and getting back to your old habits will harm you as well.

Tools to Help You Cope With Anxiety
One of the most important things to remember about anxiety coping is that coping actually happens inside of you. There are many strategies to help you cope, but what will eventually help you cure your anxiety forever is your own mental strength. Everyone has it, but it often requires taking care of your body and re-training your mind for how you should react to anxiety and stress.Still, the following will help promote better coping, and give you an opportunity to control some of the issues that lead to anxiety symptoms:

Exercise/Physical Activity
Exercise is not just about getting fit. The overwhelming majority of those that experience anxiety do not engage in enough physical activity, and many experts believe that this is one of the issues that causes anxiety. Physical activity improves the immune system, releases calming neurotransmitters (known as endorphins), tires the muscles, and burns away stress hormones. It’s incredibly important for controlling stress and anxiety, and incredibly important for coping.

Herbal Tools
There are several herbal supplements you can consider to help you cope with anxiety. Chamomile, Kava Kava, Valerian, Passionflower, and St. John’s Wort all produce sedation/relaxation without side effects. Always talk to a doctor though before starting any herbal anxiety treatment.

Meditation and Yoga
Both meditation and yoga have the potential to improve your ability to cope with stress. They teach healthier breathing, and poor breathing is one of the issues that makes anxiety symptoms worse, especially during anxiety and panic attacks. Many people believe the spiritual qualities of meditation and yoga are also helpful for curing anxiety.

Positive Thinking
Learning to think positive is also an important step in learning to cope with your anxiety. It may sound a bit “new age,” but the truth is that anxiety really does cause very negative thinking. There are ways to train yourself to think positively, including faking positivity, writing in a positivity journal, and spending time with more positive people. These really will have an impact on your ability to cope with stress.

Learning to Accept It
It’s also important that you accept your anxiety rather than run away from it. Anxiety may cause you to have fears – but many people also fear anxiety, and that fear can actually make your anxiety works. Learn to talk about it openly, and don’t try to hide when you’re suffering. The more you’re able to find your anxiety less intimidating, the easier it will be for you to overcome it.These things may not cure anxiety on their own, but they will help you learn to control the way anxiety affects you, and you’ll often find that they assist your ability to mentally cope – in some cases enough to cure it completely.

Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne located on St Kilda Road. Call Joe Busuttil 0412277488 to make an appointment.

Pain management and Hypnotherapy

After over two years of being unwell and experiencing Chronic pain, I found self Hypnosis to really help with my pain management – helping me mentally and physically. At Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne we work closely with clients who are experiencing pain on a day to day basis.

Pain itself is an essential element in human survival. In fact, acute pain is our body’s way of telling us we are being damaged and we’d better do something about it—fast! Without this kind of pain, our very existence would be threatened.

It’s when pain serves no useful purpose, when we have nothing to learn from its message, that we need some way of forcefully handling it. Medication can only do so much, and there is some pain that even powerful medicines have difficulty controlling. Headaches, back pain, arthritis and the terrible pain associated with cancer are just some of the chronic pains that can make our life really difficult.

While the source of the pain may be located somewhere in the body, signals have to reach the brain before we become aware of this. In fact, there’s a saying in hypnosis chronic pain control:
There is no pain until it reaches the brain

In fact, pain is both physical and psychological in nature. The simple existence of psychological pain—phantom limb pain, for example, where pain continues to be felt in an amputated body part—clearly demonstates the fact that the brain itself is capable of not only interpreting messages of pain that come from the body, but that it can even initiate these messages independent of any physical cause. Such pain can be as real and intense as any pain coming from a current injury.

hypnosis pain control If you have experienced pain for any length of time, you may very well have the feeling that you are condemned to suffer from that pain for the rest of your life. And few things are as soul-destoying as having to endure this.

People who suffer from such pain have probably already been to doctors*, taken medication, perhaps tried alternative methods of coping such as acupuncture, biofeedback etc and still they continue to suffer. Their whole life may be consumed by their almost constant awareness of pain.

Help You Manage Chronic Pain
Hypnosis used for pain control and pain management offers help where medication and alternative medicine have failed. Though not suitable for every single case of chronic pain or for eveyone who suffers from it, hypnosis pain management has helped many to control their pain and live a more comfortable life. In hypnosis, and then through self hypnosis, the person suffering from ongoing pain is taught to alter the brain’s perception of the pain message, to turn down its intensity.

It is known that the body can, in certain situations, suppress pain. It would not be very practical, for instance, for a soldier to stop and say “ouch” in the middle of hand-to-hand conflict. People in traumatic accidents sometimes do not realise they have lost limbs until afterwards because the pain was “shut off”.

Pain is actually a construction, created in the blood vessels of the outer brain. The body has many pain receptors but “pain” itself is only in the brain. Because it is a construction, it can be de-constructed.
This is nothing new – Aristotle said that pain was nothing more than a psychological feeling – but it has taken modern science and studies to show exactly how and why it functions.

The body’s natural pain-killers are endorphins, released by the pituitary gland.
By accessing the unconscious, it is possible to control the production of endorphins. Using hypnosis, it is possible to numb (say) a hand, and then transfer that sensation to other parts of the body. We can “turn down” the pain too, like turning down the volume on a radio.
After a couple of sessions, you can learn self-hypnosis to help you control pain in the comfort of your own surroundings.

All hypnosis is, essentially, self-hypnosis and once you have experienced the trance state, it’s a relatively simple matter to learn how to re-enter it at will and reap the benefits.

Stop smoking using Hypnotherapy

Stopping Smoking
Stopping Smoking Easily in Just One Session
Using AMAZING advanced Hypnosis Techniques!

Easy Smoking Cessation – in Melbourne
Stop smoking easily at the Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne using hypnosis – Quit those smokes with Joe Busuttil. Qualified and practicing Hypnotherapist for over 10 years.

Why do YOU want to quit?
You might think that by quitting you would; live a little longer, feel a little healthier, get nagged a little less from your partner or kids, save a few quid, or have nicer smelling breath.

The trouble is……….and here is the problem……….. none of those reasons bring immediate rewards i.e. You don’t feel healthier/ fitter/ richer/ nicer smelling/ less nagged, the day after quitting smoking. (or the next day, or week, or even month).

That doesn’t sound like a good deal to me! – give up something I love, and in five years time I may just feel a little healthier!

No wonder people often get stressed, moody, stroppy, angry and depressed when they quit smoking by willpower alone. People want their rewards and benefits NOW – not in five/ten/twenty years time.

Hypnotherapy for smoking cessation is so successful, because you do receive immediate rewards for your efforts;

– you feel an intense sense of pride and satisfaction
– you receive an immediate boost to your willpower
– you gain a huge amount of confidence in your ability to remain a non smoker
– situations that used to make you feel stressed or anxious, now just relax you
….this list could go on and on and on……

Ask yourself this:

If you received a fantastic sense of well-being, calmness, pride and satisfaction every time you got yourself in a situation where you used to have a cigarette, why would you EVER want or need to smoke again ?

“If you live in or around Melbourne, you can now stop smoking EASILY in just one session – using unique hypnosis and hypnotherapy techniques”

Contact Joe Busuttil at Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne on 0412 277 488

Dealing with a family member with drug addiction.

It is all too common to have a family member who is misusing drugs in some way, and if they haven’t been there themselves—and sometimes even if they have—many folks are at a loss about what to do in a loved one has a drug addiction.

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne we treat both the addict and the family members re this mayor. Anxiety, depression and low self esteem can all emerge while dealing with a loved one going through this difficult time.

Here I offer 5 essential things you should do if someone in your family is abusing drugs.

1) Educate yourself about addiction

We see what we know. Thus, until sometime has some knowledge about drug use—the signs and clues that someone might be using, awareness of the lies that often go along with misuse of drugs, and so on—it is easy to simply not see things that are right in front of you.

Consider this vignette: One of my elderly patients told me that when her daughters were teenagers, she and a friend were at a restaurant with their husbands and went to the ladies’ room together. As they entered the restroom my patient caught a whiff of a familiar scent and said to her friend, “Someone else uses the same perfume that my daughter Mary does.” Her friend turned to her and said, “That’s not perfume. That’s marijuana.”

At the time my patient knew nothing about illicit drugs and thus was able to overlook what wound up being multiple indications of a serious drug problem in her daughter. Within a few years, almost nothing pertaining to drugs escaped her notice.

If we are not informed about something we simply might overlook something that in fact is right before our eyes.

2) Do not allow yourself to be abused

It is all too common for family members of drug users to end up being abused in various ways. Emotional abuse is probably more than norm than the exception, given that irritability and labile moods are common in those who are using drugs. Drug users often steal to support their use, and family members often present the easiest target for theft. I have seen more than one user steal family heirlooms and sell them for drugs. Physical and at times sexual abuse occurs as well.

Drug abuse is no excuse not to take reasonable steps to protect yourself. In some circumstances authorities may need to be involved. Regardless, I can’t stress enough that individuals should not allow themselves to be abused.

3) Don’t “enable” the behaviour by colluding with the user in some way or covering up the abuse

Allow the user to suffer some of the consequences of his or her drug abuse and do not cover-up or collude with the user. Thus, for example, I would not lie to employers about why the individual can’t come into work, make excuses to creditors, or pay off bills.

If there are limits or boundaries that are in place about curfews, a family budget, expectations of help around the house, and so on, do not give the substance user a free pass to flout those limits. Insist on good, responsible behavior across all realms and call the individual on non-conforming behavior

4) If any essential aspect of your own life is in jeopardy, seek professional help

If you are so beaten down by the drug use in the other person that any essential aspects of your own life is in jeopardy—such as employment, housing, ability to put food on the table, etc.—then by all means you should seek out professional help.

Sometimes it can be helpful to elicit professional consultation and support when deciding how to proceed with a family member or loved one who is abusing drugs.

5) Attend to your own health and well-being

Although this might seem selfish, I strongly believe that it is hard to be present for others and/or be able to make the best decisions possible if you are not ensuring that your own health needs are being met. Thus, eating right, getting enough sleep, exercising, and keeping up your doctor’s appointments—along with attending to all of your health needs—puts you in the best position possible.

Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne
Joe Busuttil

Motivation creator – Change therapy

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne we assist clients daily to change their motivation levels and find what they are looking for…

Motivation is central to creativity, productivity, and happiness. Motivation is what causes us to act, and when we act, we create movement, growth, and change; we feel involved, masterful, and significant; we feel powerful through experiencing how we can change the world; and we create more of what we love in our lives. And all of this gives our lives purpose and happiness.

Demotivation is like snow

Most of us have just one conception of demotivation, which means that whenever you’re unmotivated, you’re likely to assume that you’re struggling with the same problem, when in fact demotivation is a category of problems, containing many variations. When you have just one kind of demotivation, you’ll apply the same old strategies whenever you feel unmotivated; for many people, those strategies look like this: set goals, push harder, create accountability checks that will push you, and run your life using GTD methods and to-do lists. These strategies are ineffective with most types of demotivation, and in some instances they can even make you more unmotivated.

At its essence, demotivation is about your not being fully committed to act, and there are many reasons why you might be in that position. Having more ways to categorize your demotivation will help you to identify the real reasons for your unwillingness to commit to action, so that you can pick the right tools and strategies to get motivated again.

Here are 10 types of demotivation and the strategies that will help you to get motivated again :

1) You’re demotivated by fear

When you’re afraid, even if you’re entering territory that you’ve chosen to move into, a part of you is determined to avoid going forward. Fear slows you down and makes you hesitant and careful, which can be beneficial to you, but sometimes your fears are based on your imagination rather than on an accurate assessment of the risks in your reality. If your fear is big enough, even if you’re also excited to go forward, the part of you that wants to keep you safe can successfully prevent you from going forward into territory that’s both desirable and safe.

How to get motivated again: To get motivated, you need to deal with your fear. Start by naming your fears so that they’re out in the open. Remember to say a gentle “thank you” to your fears – they’re trying to protect you, after all. Then question your fears: “Why am I afraid of that happening?” “What are the chances that would really happen?” Some of your fears will slip away now.

Look at the fears that are left. What are they telling you about the research you need to do, the gaps you need to fill, and the risk management strategies you need to put in place? Honor that wisdom by building it into your plan. Finally, consider breaking down the changes you’re wanting to make into smaller steps and focusing on just the next few small steps – this will calm your fears.

2) You’re demotivated by setting the wrong goals

Your Essential Self is the part of you that’s spontaneous and creative and playful, the part that knows what’s most important to you. Your Social Self is the part of you that has been developing since the day you were born, learning the rules of the tribe and working hard to make sure that you’re safe by making you follow the rules of the tribe.

We’re all surrounded by so many messages that feed into our Social Selves and we’re keen to impress our tribes. When you feel unmotivated, it’s because you’re setting goals based purely on what your Social Self wants and this is pulling you away from the direction your Essential Self wants you to take. Your Essential Self uses demotivation to slow you down and to detach you from the toxic goals you’ve set.

How to get motivated again: Take some time to review your goals. Because your Essential Self is non-verbal, you can easily access your Essential Self through your body. Notice how your body responds as you think of each of the goals you’re trying to work on. When your body (and particularly your breathing) shows signs of tightness and constriction, that’s a pretty good indication that you’re trying to follow toxic goals. If you get a constricted reaction, scrap your current goals and question all your stories about what you “should” do with your life. Notice what makes you smile spontaneously or lose track of time, and set goals related to that stuff instead.

3) You’re demotivated by lack of clarity about what you want

When you haven’t consciously and clearly articulated what you want, your picture of your future will be vague. We like what’s familiar, so we resist what’s unfamiliar and vague and we stay with and re-create what’s familiar to us. If you’re not clear about what you want to create, then it makes sense that you’ll lack motivation to act because you’d rather stay with your current familiar reality.

How to get motivated again: If you want to create something different from what you’ve been experiencing, it’s not enough to just know what you don’t want. You need to know what you do want, and you need to articulate a clear and specific vision of what you want to create so that you can become familiar with that new outcome and feel comfortable moving toward it. Take some time to articulate what you want and why you want it.

4) You’re demotivated by a values conflict

Your values are what’s important to you in life. If you have a values conflict, it means that there are two or more values that are important to you but you believe that you can’t satisfy all of those values in a particular situation. This situation causes you to feel conflicted and pulled in different directions as you try to find ways to get what’s important to you. You might have brief spurts of motivation to work on something and then lose motivation and start working on something else, or your motivation might dry up altogether because the effort of dealing with internal conflict quickly tires you out and saps your energy.

How to get motivated again: You need to unpack your values conflict and play mediator to get the parts of you that are advocating for different values to play on the same team again. Start with acknowledging the internal conflict. Grab a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle so that you have two columns. Write about the two different directions you feel pulled in, one in each column, and summarize it with a statement of what each part wants. Now pick one column and chunk it up: “Why does this part want that? What does it hope to get as a result of having that?” Keep asking the questions and writing your answers until you feel that you’ve hit on the result that this part of you ultimately wants. Now do the same for the other part, and notice when you get to the level where the answers in the two columns are the same.

Ultimately, all of the parts of you always want the same thing, because they’re all you. Now that you know what you really want, you can evaluate the strategies that each part had been advocating for and decide which strategy would work best.

Often, once you’re clear on what you really want, you spot new strategies for getting it that you hadn’t noticed before. Sometimes by doing this exercise you’ll find ways to satisfy all of your values, but sometimes that’s not possible. If you’ve taken time to think through your values and you’ve consciously chosen to prioritize a particular value over your other values for a while, this clarity will ease the internal conflict and your motivation will return.

5) You’re demotivated by lack of autonomy

We thrive on autonomy. We all have a decision-making center in our brains and this part of us needs to be exercised. Studies have found that this decision-making center in the brain is under-developed in people who have depression and that if you practice using this part of the brain and making decisions, depression often clears.

How to get motivated again: Consider how much autonomy you have in relation to the goals you’ve been trying to pursue. Are there areas where you feel constricted and controlled? Consider how you could gradually introduce more autonomy in your task, time, technique, location, and team, and then, if you’re employed, have a discussion with your manager and ask for greater autonomy in a few specific areas of your work.

6) You’re demotivated by lack of challenge

Challenge is another crucial ingredient for motivation. When it comes to dealing with challenges, there’s a sweet spot. Too great a challenge, and the fear becomes too great and saps our motivation (see point 1), and if the challenge is too small, we quickly get bored and struggle to stay motivated. We’re designed to be living, growing creatures and we need constant challenges and opportunities to master new skills. Without challenges, our Essential Self steps in and demotivates us as a way of telling us that we’ve departed from the path that’s right for us.

How to get motivated again: Review your goals and the projects you’re working on. Are they challenging you? Are they going to require you to grow in order to achieve them, or are you treading water in your comfort zone, doing only the things you know you can do? Try tweaking your goals to make them a bit more challenging, take on projects that will require you to grow, and find a new thing or two to learn to stimulate yourself.

7) You’re demotivated by grief

At the beginning of any change, we go through a phase of wondering if we should or could hang on to the way things were and grieving what we’ll be losing if we make significant changes. Confusion, self-doubt, mistrust of the world around us, and feeling lost are common symptoms, and the bigger the change, the more powerful these symptoms. Sometimes we even go through a bit of depression and social withdrawal. With all the grieving and fearing and feeling lost that go on in this phase, it’s normal for your motivation to dry up.

How to get motivated again: If you’ve just experienced a trauma or loss, or you’re going through a major change and finding that there are days where you’re hit hard with Death and Rebirth symptoms, don’t try to make yourself motivated and proactive. You can’t rush grieving or the undoing of your old life and ways of thinking, and you can’t skip the Death and Rebirth phase and go straight into Dreaming and Scheming.

You need to give yourself a lot of space for nurturing and reflection. Look after your body with good food, rest, and exercise. Express your grief, confusion, and fears with people who can listen lovingly. Spend time in nature and with calm, loving people to center yourself. Accept every feeling and thought you have – they’re all normal and safe. Take one day at a time and go easy on yourself. Confusion, forgetfulness, and clumsiness are all normal in this stage. The grieving will end when it’s ready, and if you relax into it and express your grief, it’ll be sooner rather than later.

8) You’re demotivated by loneliness

This is an especially important one for those of us who work alone from home. You know those days when you feel a bit cabin-feverish, you just don’t feel like working, and you’d rather be out having a drink with a friend or playing a game of soccer? Well, perhaps it’s because we’re designed to be social creatures and sometimes your Essential Self is just longing for some connection with other people, and so it steps in and hijacks your work motivation so that you’ll take a break from work and go spend some time with other people and give your Essential Self what it needs.

How to get motivated again: Take a break and go spend some time with someone you enjoy. You may be surprised at the motivating impact this has and find yourself much more clear and productive when you return to your work. And then look for ways that you can begin to build more networking into our day.

9) You’re demotivated by burnout

I attract overachieving Type A’s, and as a recovering Type A myself, I know that sometimes we’re banging on about wanting to get more done even after we’ve exceeded the limit on what’s sustainable. If you’re feeling tired all the time, you’ve lost your energy for socializing, and the idea of taking a snooze sounds more compelling than the stuff you’re usually interested in, then you’ve probably pushed yourself too long and hard and you may be burned out.

Your Essential Self will always work to motivate you to move toward what you most need and away from goals, projects, and ways of working that take you away from what your Essential Self craves. So if you’re burned out and needing sleep, your Essential Self may even sap the motivation from the things that you’re usually really ignited about – just to get you to meet your core needs again.

How to get motivated again: Sleep. And then when you’re done sleeping and the quality of your thinking has been restored, check back in with your Essential Self about what’s most important to you, and start building ways to do more of what’s important to you.

10) You’re demotivated by not knowing what to do next

Your end-goal might be nice and clear, but if you haven’t taken time to chunk it down into smaller goals, you’ll get stuck, confused, and unmotivated when it’s time to take action. Some projects are small and familiar enough that they don’t need a plan, but if you’re often worrying that you don’t know what to do next and you don’t have a clear plan, then this might be the source of your demotivation.

How to get motivated again: If you want to keep your motivation flowing steadily through all stages of your projects, take time to create clear project plans.

Use your fears to point you to the potential risks you need to manage in your plan. Write down all of your “I-don’t-know-how-to” concerns and turn these into research questions. The first part of any planning stage is research, and you’ll find new research questions along the way, so realize that conducting research should be part of your action plan at every stage of your project. Finally, ask yourself what smaller goals need to be achieved for you to achieve your end-goal, and schedule deadlines for yourself.

Goal-setting and pushing are rarely the answer

Goal-setting, planning, organizing, and accountability structures are often touted as the big solution to demotivation and the silver bullet that will get you creative and productive again, but notice that it’s a useful strategy for dealing with only some types of demotivation. With many other types of demotivation, goal-setting, planning, organizing, and accountability structures will only make your demotivation problem worse.

Over to you…

Have you been able to pinpoint the types of demotivation that you tend to struggle with most?
Are you stuck in demotivation right now?
What do you need, and which motivation strategy is going to give you what you need right now?

Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne
Joe Busuttil