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Releasing Control using Hypnotherapy
by Joe B on Wed, July 12, 2017at 04:03 am

Control Key on Computer Keyboard — Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne – CONTROL

There’s one thing that I find crops up time and time again when I work with people in a hypnotherapy capacity. It usually comes wrapped up in various guises or stories, but once we drill down through all of the layers, we end up at the same place. I know I have been there myself personally. I’m talking about one small but very powerful word.

Control.

That’s right. Often people will come to me with a huge, long, winding story about something that is frustrating them and stopping them from achieving what they want. We will talk it through and more often than not there will be an element of control involved. The types of control issues vary, including feelings of being out of control to a desire to try and control others or certain situations.

Why oh why do we love to Control?

As human beings, what is it that’s so alluring about control? I see a few common beliefs crop up with clients who feel the need to control.

The first is that control = security. People feel safe when they are in control. If they are in the drivers seat then everything is OK. They have got it handled. That nothing can go wrong!

The second is that control = certainty. This is probably one of the biggest beliefs that I see. As humans, we crave certainty like nothing else. We just want to know what will happen so we don’t have to worry about anything! In-fact a desire for control often stems from a desire to predict the future. We try to come up with a plan for the worst case scenario.

The irony is that both of these beliefs are complete nonsense because there is actually no such thing as control. We are never in control. Ever.

This is a fact of life. And in my experience, the sooner we grasp this and learn to go with life flow a little more, the easier life will be.

In-fact as morbid as it sounds, the only certainty we have in life is death. This is the only guarantee. We know for sure that one day we will die. But that’s it folks! Nothing else is certain! No matter how much we may fool ourselves into believing it so.

I myself have been working on going with the flow a little more and letting go of my old habit of over-planning. The over-achiever in me still rears it’s ugly head every now and then and tries to control certain outcomes by planning everything to a tee. The thing is, what I’ve noticed during my own control experiment is that when you trust that things will work out, things often flow much better than you could have ever planned. And it’s a much easier way of living without all of that over-planning!

Now I’m not saying to do away with all formal planning and just hope for life to drop things into your lap. That would be foolish. Of course, we still need to make loose plans to get things done. We can however, be open to ‘how’ things get done. Being open to the idea that we take action to make stuff happen but then we remain open to how the results form.

Why control is dangerous

The thing is, when we rely on control to make us feel good (ie when we have it we feel great, but when we don’t we feel terrible), we will constantly be on this rollercoaster ride otherwise known as life. We will never feel consistently happy. And the unfortunate part of the equation is that more often than not, we will be disappointed, because as I mentioned before, control does not really exist (except in the mind).

The only thing that control can guarantee you is a lifetime of frustration. I know people who try to control the tiniest of things. For example, the speed of their computer or the traffic flow or the way the wind is blowing. I see them boil up with anger and frustration as they desperately attempt to control these things that are essentially out of their control. And it always ends the same way – in defeat. Because the reality is that we cannot control these things, we can only work with them. Quite frankly, it looks exhausting!

The alternative to control

So what other options do we have? And why should we give up our beloved control in the first place? Well, I have a proposition for you.

Think of the world as if it were one huge dance floor, and life as one beautiful, flowing dance. Each time the music changes, you effortlessly dance to a different beat. You flow with the music instead of against it. You don’t try and control the music! And it’s the constant changes in the music that make the dance of life so exciting and fun! How boring would it be if we were to dance to the same tiresome tune our entire lives?

This is how the happiest and most successful people live their lives. They dance to the rhythm of life and they look at each challenge or each thing that is out of their control as an opportunity to shine. They adapt and they mold into the circumstances that are thrown at them! They sure as hell don’t try and control them! How ludicrous to try and control something that cannot be controlled! What an utter waste of time!

And the irony is that the more they let go and go with the flow, the more control they actually have over their lives 🙂

Simple Life Strategy: How to Stop Trying to Control Everything using the conscious and subconscious minds. Hypnotherapy assists with letting go.

1. Consider what your beliefs are about control? Why is it so important to you?

2. Ask yourself this question: “What do I gain from control?”

3. Once you have an answer, check in to see if you really do gain what you think you do! (usually the answer here is no)

4. Consider the concept that there is no such thing as control and the only certainty we have in life is death (a heady subject, but a useful one nonetheless)

5. Choose to let go of any beliefs you have around control

6. Experiment by noticing the next time you feel the need to control something and simply decide to just go with the flow and see what happens

7. Take this a step further and start to look for opportunities when things out of your control pop up. How can you use this as a positive?

Joe Busuttil
Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling – Melbourne

QUIT smoking today using Hypnotherapy.
by Joe B on Mon, July 10, 2017at 04:16 am

You can reduce your risk with Hypnotherapy. At Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne were works with smokers everyday, and make them non-smokers.

Smoking is the most preventable cause of premature death in the Australia. Smokers have a higher risk of developing many chronic disorders, including atherosclerosis — the buildup of fatty substances in the arteries. Controlling or reversing atherosclerosis is an important part of preventing future heart attack or stroke.

You can modify or control seven major independent risks:

Cigarette and tobacco smoke
High blood cholesterol
High blood pressure
Physical inactivity
Overweight or obesity
Diabetes
Healthy Diet

Smoking by itself increases the risk of coronary heart disease.

When it acts with the other factors, it greatly increases your risk from those factors, too. Smoking decreases your tolerance for physical activity and increases the tendency for blood to clot. It decreases HDL (good) cholesterol. Your risks increase greatly if you smoke and have a family history of heart disease. Smoking also creates a higher risk for peripheral artery disease and aortic aneurysm. It increases the risk of recurrent coronary heart disease after bypass surgery, too.

Smoking is also an important risk factor for stroke. Inhaling cigarette smoke produces several effects that damage the cerebrovascular system. Women who take oral contraceptives and smoke increase their risk of stroke many times. Cigars and pipes aren’t a “safer” alternative to cigarettes. People who smoke cigars or pipes also have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease and death than non-smokers.

Breathe clean air.

It’s also important to avoid other people’s smoke. The link between secondhand smoke (also called environmental tobacco smoke) and disease is well known, and the connection to cardiovascular-related disability and death is also clear. Each year about 34,000 adults die from heart and blood vessel disease caused by other people’s smoke. The risk of stroke for nonsmokers who are exposed to secondhand smoke is increased by an estimated 20–30 percent.

Let healing begin today.

If you already have heart disease, you may think, “What good will it do me to quit smoking now?” But don’t be discouraged. Your lungs can begin to heal themselves as soon as you stop harming them with more smoke. Heart disease can be prevented and controlled, but you must follow your treatment plan — and quitting smoking is a big part.

Hypnotherapy really helps STOP smoking. Contact Joe at Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne too find out how.

Opening up to Emotions.
by Joe B on Thu, June 22, 2017at 05:14 am

Why Do People Bottle Up Their Emotions?

– They are unable to fight back in an argument situation (e.g., the “opponent” is more dominant)
– They think that if they show their emotions it is a sign of weakness.
– They believe it is not normal to be feeling a certain way, so try to conceal their emotions from others.
– They are afraid of what other people might think.
– They feel that they have to deal with their emotions or problems on their own because “no one else will understand.”
– A situation may have occurred that has placed someone in shock and they just don’t know how to deal with it or they just block it out because don’t fully understand it makes them feel (or don’t feel) a certain way.
– They feel they have to be “the rock” for others.
– They don’t want to be hurt so they swallow their emotions back down.

What Happens When You Bottle Up Your Emotions

– You can get to a stage where you have bottled up your emotions to the point you “explode.” Often the victims are loved ones, friends, and co-workers.
– You turn to escapism (alcohol, cigarettes, drugs) for short term solutions, to avoid confronting your emotions.
– You become depressed and numb, and you don’t know how to get out of the situation.
– Often the pent-up emotions will manifest themselves physically in the form of diseases and can make you very ill.
– Some people commit suicide because they see no other way out.

Ways To Release Those Bottled-Up Emotions

Write. Putting your feelings down on paper not only enables you to begin unloading your emotional baggage, it also allows you to process the situation so that perhaps you may a) gain objectivity, b) understand the other person’s point of view, and more importantly c) be free to move on with the more important and pleasant things in life. Plus, if you do this regularly in the form of a journal or diary it makes a fascinating read many years later.

Music. If you play an instrument, write a song about what is bothering you. Not only is it a release, it is a way to take that negative energy and be creative with it positively. The song may be dark in subject or it may have some explicit lyrics but you will have fun putting it together and feel empowered every time you perform it or listen to the recording. Sometimes it may be a song that no one else will hear, but that’s fine. It would have served its purpose. If you’re not musically inclined, listen to someone else’s song about a similar subject. Music has the power to move you deeply and by the same token has the power to heal.

Confide in someone. If you feel you can’t talk to the people in your immediate circle, look outside it. If you know someone you haven’t been in touch with for years, give them a call and see if you can catch up. They do not know the details of your life as they have been out of contact so may be able to provide an objective point of view or “outside advice”. Sometimes its good to speak to a counsellor to assist you to find solutions to move past the blockage. Hypnotherapy works really well with this process.

Meditate. Quieten the mind, breathe and listen to the subconscious. In may times this process helps open ups and connect you to your emotions.

Connect with pets or nature. If you’re uncomfortable talking to people, try nature. Animals are not dumb. In fact, they often sense the emotions of their owners or other humans. You’ve heard stories of dogs howling when their owners have passed away in the other room, or stories about plants growing more quickly to a bigger size when exposed to music.

Everybody bottles up their emotions at some point. The trick is to realise that doing so is not healthy. When you learn to let go of the hurt or anger or frustration within and are no longer carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you will feel much happier with life. Your smile will generate opportunities and with the bad experiences behind you, you can also begin to help other people.

Contact Joe Busuttil at Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling, Melbourne to make an appointment.

Mindfulness everyday breathing.
by Joe B on Tue, June 06, 2017at 23:13 pm

I have started noticing more and more people suffering with stress related conditions at Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling, Melbourne. With more and more people taking an initiative to focus on their mental health, meditation has become increasingly popular. Meditation is one of many practices that not only improves mental health, but also supports overall wellness. You do not need to be an expert to meditate, you simply need a quiet space and a couple of minutes to yourself. Once you start incorporating meditation into your lifestyle, you will begin to notice all of the wonderful benefits that it can have on your mind, body, and spirit:

Physical Changes to Your Brain –
A study conducted in 2011 at Harvard found that meditating for just 8 weeks increases your brain size in three beneficial areas. 1. The left hippocampus which is responsible for your ability to learn and retain information. 2. The posterior cingulate cortex which is responsible for controlling how your mind wanders. 3. The temporoparietal junction, which is responsible for empathy and compassion. Additionally, this same study also found that there were decreases in cell volume in the amygdala, the area of the brain that is responsible for fear, stress and anxiety.

Reduction of Negative Emotions –
Studies have shown that practicing meditation helps you to better manage stress, and also significantly decrease the negative side effects of stress. A recent study found that mindfulness meditation helped people just as much as commonly prescribed anti-depressant drugs. Furthermore, meditation has proven to be helpful in stopping or slowing obsessive thinking, anxiety, depression, and hostility.

Increase in Concentration and Focus –
Meditation “not only changes brain patterns, but it also confers advantages in mental focus that may improve cognitive performance.”

Overall Health Benefits –
Meditation had effects on the body at a genetic level. Meditation could protect the length of your telomeres, which could possibly slow down the aging process.

Increase in Positive Emotions –
Practicing meditation produces positive emotions that increase over time as you practice on a daily basis.

So, how can someone who has never meditated before begin meditating? Here are some simple steps to help get you started:

Where should I meditate? You can technically meditate anywhere you would like — in a chair, bed, on the floor, etc. However, the most optimal and beneficial way to meditate is by sitting on the floor (you can sit on a yoga mat, rug, or pillows) because it keeps you wide awake and allows you to sit for long periods of time.

What do I do with my body? As a beginner meditator, you can criss cross your legs like pretzels if you are sitting on the ground. Your arms can rest on your thighs, and your hands can rest on top of each other and form a cup shape, and your thumbs can touch (it is completely up to you!) What is most important is that your arms feel relaxed. Your back should be straight and your head should be completely level, facing forward. You may meditate with your eyes open or closed. However, for beginners, eyes closed is recommended as it is easier to focus.

How long should I meditate for? Before you begin meditating, it is advised that you set an alarm nearby. This prevents your mind from wondering about how much time is left for the session. For beginner meditations, starting with just 5 minutes is best. You may increase your time spent meditating the more you get use to it. Most peopler recommend meditating anywhere between 10-20 minutes.

What do I do during a Mindfulness Breathing Meditation? It is important to make sure that you are breathing through your nose. The focus should be directed towards your breath. Observe the way the air feels as it is moving through your nostril. Notice the transition from inhale to exhale. Do not judge your observations, simply observe them in the present moment. You will notice that as you are doing this, thoughts will begin to enter your mind, which will be distracting. When you notice your mind wandering, simple redirect your focus back to your breath. This is how you train your mindfulness muscle! It is totally normal to have thoughts come up as you are meditating, especially for beginners. Try not to criticize yourself when it does.

It is important to be aware that the more habitual you make mindfulness meditation, the more benefits you will obtain from it. You will also notice that the more you practice, the more you will have your entire focus on your breath for longer amounts of time. In order to start truly seeing the wonderful benefits of meditation, you should try to meditate on a daily basis. As previously mentioned, it only takes a small amount of time out of your day!

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling we assist clients to learn mindfulness and reach a place of comfort in their lives.

Facing your FEARS
by Joe B on Mon, May 29, 2017at 02:37 am

LEAVE BEHIND THE PAST AND EMPOWERING YOUR FUTURE

Have you considered looking your fear straight bin the eye. Maybe utilising counselling or hypnotherapy to combat the thoughts that keep you stuck.

To move forward and evolve as human beings our fears must be challenged, demystified and dismantled. This is a huge part of the Ascension process. We are accelerating so fast in these days of huge transformation, that every fear in the human spectrum of experience is raising its head for us to face , as it wells out from deep within us.

It takes all of our inner strength and courage to face our fears. By allowing fear to control or hinder us we are giving up more than we feared losing in the first place. When we allow fear to hinder us from being you we need to be at the authentic levels we are not disclosing who we really are to ourselves and to the world. It is like disowning a part of ourselves.

Below is a simple meditation exercise to bring fears up with clarity so you can address the root of the fear itself. Many times the fears we have are vague and not at all what we “ think” they are. Explore them, challenge them, and embrace them to move you past old patterns. Moving past fear, brings us into greater clarity and then into more personal power.

•Close your eyes

•Identify the fear. What is it?

•Get in touch with the fear.

•What do you experience and notice about the fear?

•Notice any resistance.

•Give in and let go of resistance consciously. What do you notice about the fear now?

•Imagine a door where on the other side of the door is this fear. Imagine the fear is a long lost friend, something that protected you in the past.

•What is different about the fear now?

•Now open the door and welcome it in. Pay more attention to how it feels. Offer it something, what does it ask for?

•Now open your heart and embrace the fear like a small child. Hold it, embrace it, comfort it. What do you want to say to this fear?

•What is going to be different? What is possible if you are willing to welcome, fully embrace and love this fear as a learning and growth opportunity?

Make a commitment to truly embrace this fear as a learning tool. Make it your friend. Face your fear and overcome inner resistance and do something you have been fearful of doing. Get to know the little voice that reminds you of this fear. By embracing it, you are deliberately choosing your own path. Embracing your fear liberates you to live the life you have always wanted, yet may not have dared to have.

And further, facing your fears and having greater acceptance reprograms the old fears and old habits in your subconscious to higher patterns. The same triggers will not be there as they once were. This way the emotional charge will be cleared, and you will feel a greater relief or neutrality instead. Okay, for many of us… in light of current circumstances….we have some clearing to do!

hypnotherapy can assist you too conquer fear by going straight to the source. Changing limiting beliefs and opening you up top the amazing opportunities around you.

Joe Busuttil
Equator Therapies Melbourne

Face your Fear – Finding the Courage to Shine – Workshop
by Joe B on Tue, April 11, 2017at 03:00 am


28th May, 2017 at 10am – 4pm

$65

370 St Kilda Road
Melbourne 3004

Equator Therapies Melbourne presents this ONE DAY personal development workshop with Joe Busuttil.

Ticket details :

www.eventbrite.com.au/e/face-your-fear-finding-the-courage-to-shine-tickets-33446806298

Anything worthwhile that you can do, will likely scare you.
You probably woke up today wanting more. To do more, be more, or live in a way that lights you up.
But something got in your way, didn’t it? Maybe you stayed small, acted out of what you’re expected to do. Maybe you played it safe, instead of following your heart. Maybe you don’t even know what your heart says half the time because your brain is in the way.
That can change, right now. Keep reading to find out how…
If you ask yourself “Is this all there is?” or feel deflated at the thought of waking up every morning for the next 30 years to do exactly what you’re doing now, you’re not living your dream.
If the first thing you would do if you won the lottery or got diagnosed with cancer is quit everything you’re doing now, you’re cheating yourself.
We all have reasons why we’re not doing what we want, but if you give them a good hard look, most of them boil down to fear.
Imagine if you weren’t afraid.
Imagine having the confidence to take on your greatest projects, and succeed!
Imagine how it would feel to stop worrying what other people think of you or how you compare.
Imagine if you didn’t have to waste time struggling with yourself because you’re too intimidated to get started.
Imagine the relief of letting go of your self-doubt and worry.
Imagine the power of knowing you can cope with any situation that comes along.
Imagine how it would feel to run your own life and go after your dreams, without fear dragging you down and holding you back.
This is true freedom.
And it comes from overcoming your fears.
What you gain by mastering fear
It’s amazing, once you start facing your fears and doing the things you’re afraid of, how gratifying it is. It’s not just being able to do the things you always wanted, although that is very satisfying. It’s also how great you feel about yourself!
You respect yourself more and realize your worth. You no longer need to compare yourself to other people or worry about what they think, because you have confidence in yourself. And you open yourself up to so many more possibilities!
The world opens up for you.
I want this for you, and I know how hard it is to get there by yourself.
When you’re alone and afraid, the fears can feed on each other and multiply until you feel paralyzed. If you’re at all like I was, you may have fears like these.
What if I’m making a fool of myself?
What if I’m being unrealistic? I don’t have it that bad. Maybe I should just be grateful things aren’t worse.
What if there’s something wrong with me and I can’t do any better than this?
What if nothing ever changes and I keep struggling with these same problems and fears forever?
What if I fail?
What if I succeed and everyone hates me for it?
What if everyone finds out how weak and imperfect I am?
When I asked if anyone was interested in learning to overcome your fears, the response blew me away.
You want freedom.
You want to breathe easier.
You want to do what you want.
You want to make a difference in people’s lives.
You want to be able to conquer anything that comes your way.
You want to be happy.
You want to be able to look back on your life and be proud that you took the risks to be your best self and make the most of your life.
I want to see you do all this and more. I want to see you living your dreams, and dreaming bigger and bigger.

What have you got to lose.

Nothing !!!!

Living without FEAR….
by Joe B on Tue, April 11, 2017at 02:50 am

We live in an era of limitless possibilities, where any person can achieve their dreams and live life with meaning and joy. Yet one of life’s sharpest paradoxes is, your brightest future centers on your ability to overcome your limiting beliefs in your potential. Despite having noble intentions, many individuals live their lives on autopilot, not fully experiencing themselves in the world. And while activities like yoga, exercise, and meditation help, most people find it difficult to remain focused on what’s possible when confronted with the trials and demands of our fast-paced and ever-evolving society. Take a minute to imagine yourself in a tranquil atmosphere, separated from all the distractions you encounter. Then, ask yourself: What would I do if I wasn’t afraid? I was not full of fear.

We all doubt whether or not we are doing enough, making enough money, or if we are going to be “successful” enough. I know this personally, as I’ve devoted long periods of my life in a continuous state of fear and self-doubt. I questioned my abilities to the point that I was making my decisions based on what others desired of me, not what I aspired for myself.

Everyone struggles with uncertainty once in a while, even successful people. A little self-doubt is normal and healthy. It prevents a person from crossing the fine line between self-confidence and hubris. However, the difference between people living in fear is a highly successful person does not let self-doubt derail them from what they set out to accomplish.

I look at self doubt as just a temporary condition. Think of it as a bumpy road to success. When your self-confidence is challenged, just follow these steps and you will get past it. In fact, I have no doubt about your ability to leave self doubt in the dust.

IDENTIFY YOUR FEARS. Are there any obstacles in your life that you know you need to confront but have been avoiding
GIVE FEAR A SHAPE. Ask yourself what you are most afraid of. What factors contribute to your fear, what triggers it, and what gives it power over you? Also consider the ways in which your fears have been getting in the way of your happiness and success.

VISUALISE YOUR DREAM LIFE. If not for other people’s judgments and expectations, what would you be doing with your life that you feel inhibited from doing now? Make a list of as many things as you can think of, big or small, that you would do if you weren’t afraid.

BREAK IT DOWN: Once you become consciously aware of your authentic self, you can begin to confront the areas of your life that are not in alignment with your truth. From there, consider creating a few small, reasonable goals for yourself each week to get yourself moving in the direction you want to go.

CELEBRATE YOUR MILESTONES: Each time you successfully overcome a meaningful obstacle, take the time to share your accomplishment with others. Plan a small party or social outing – whatever feels appropriate. It is important to celebrate your feats with people you love. This will help to strengthen your support network and inspire you for future endeavours.

Contact Joe Busuttil at Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne on 0412 277 488

Techniques for Improving Memory
by Joe B on Wed, April 05, 2017at 03:54 am

Equator Hypnotherapy – Melbourne

Having a tough time learning new concepts? In this article we’ll boost your learning capacity with eleven bullet-proof techniques for improving memory: chunking, transfer of learning, memory Palace, funny imagery, peg system, eliminate unrelated associations, explain to others; study with others, put yourself in the picture, use mechanical aids, use your passion, and learn from the past.

Chunking

You can remember more if you chunk, but what is chunking, and how do we form chunks? Because short-term memory is so limited, the way that we can get more information through to the long-term storage warehouse is by connecting little bits of information until they become larger chunks. There is a trick, though: the little bits have to be meaningful connections, or the whole thing collapses. Chunking came to be part of memory study years ago when researchers studied chess experts. What they found was that the ability to have readily accessible “chunks” – more significant insights into game strategy than a single move – was what characterised the play of the winners.

An example of chunking can be seen when your new friend shouts out her telephone number as her train pulls away from the station; this is often about ten digits, depending on where you live. If each digit is “just a number”, you may struggle to remember it for more than a few seconds, as it probably entered your sensory memory from the auditory sense.

But let’s say it’s a landline number (meaning a two-digit area code and eight further digits in Australia) and let’s say the area code and first four digits of the exchange are the same as your own. That means that, with chunking, you suddenly are able to reduce those ten digits – read: ten memory slots required to six: one slot of your memory is filled with the area code, containing two digits, and the second slot is filled with the exchange number, containing four digits. But these two slots plus the remaining four digits, each occupying one slot, will still strain your short-term memory.

What to do? Further chunking

Let’s say your friend said that the last four digits are 4532, which you recall is the same sequence as an old address of yours. Now you can “chunk” the last four digits, reducing them to a single slot. So, where you started with ten digits/slots needed – let’s say 0738634532 – you now have three: my area code + my exchange + my old address. Easy! In fact, you probably further chunk the area code and exchange down to a single slot called, “The same number as mine” And you will still have several slots left for other bits of data!

The idea is to create larger and larger chunks, and increasing numbers of chunks, in our mental library. Dancers and athletes do this as they string together various individual moves into sequences which they can access in a moment’s notice. With academic learning, we can learn to form ever-longer ribbons of material which contain vast amounts of individual data, woven together in our minds by either personal or subject-relevant connections.

Transfer of learning

Our working memories would all go crazy if we didn’t employ the strategy of transfer at least to some degree. What we want to be able to do is to use it fully and consciously. Transfer involves learning a chunk in one field and then applying (transferring) it to another situation/field. For example, if you learn Spanish as a second language, you find out that nouns are deemed either “masculine”, such as wine (“vino”) or “feminine”, such as table (“mesa”). To speak Spanish more like a native speaker, you must get the correct gender, shown partially in the ending (“o” for many masculine words and “a” for many feminine words). You can see in this short explanation how making a simple sentence in Spanish about putting the wine on the table is going to involve a chunk!

Now, let’s say that after learning Spanish, you decide to go to Prague, in the Czech Republic, and want to speak Czech while you are there. Must you start over completely in learning the Czech language? No. Thanks to transfer, you already have a “chunk” from Spanish which informs you that items/nouns have a “gender”, so it’s not too hard to “get” that Czech nouns are masculine or feminine. You even get to enlarge your chunk about other languages and gendered nouns, because Czech additionally has “neutral” nouns. Your transferred chunk from Spanish also contains the idea that the “gender” of the noun can be shown in the last letter or two. Fantastic! In Czech, too, the gender of the noun is seen in its ending! < /p>

How does this story end? You have a great holiday and win the respect of all the Czech people for how quickly you are picking up on their language, which is deemed to be relatively complex – and you are doing a lot of it through the use of transfer of learning.

Memory Palace

Spatial memory is sometimes better than other types of memory. The Memory Palace technique uses visualisation to organise and eventually recall information. You begin the technique by thinking of either a familiar location (such as your bedroom or lounge at home) or – if you are creative – an imaginary palace with multiple rooms. By following a specific route through your palace/home, you can deposit things that you want to remember later along the way at specific locations. When you wish to recall the items that you deposited, you simply retrace your steps through your palace/home. For example, if you don’t have paper handy to make a grocery list, but want to remember to buy spinach, bread, and tofu, you might “place” spinach leaves in a big pile on, say, your coffee table. The bread might be resting on the couch, and the tofu could be jiggling around in the bowl where you keep all your remotes. By placing bizarre items in a spatial situation, we can remember them.

Funny imagery

Related to the Memory Palace is the possibility of remembering something because you have visualised it with funny or interesting imagery. For instance, let’s say in geometry class you want to remember the formula for the area of a circle: A = πr2. We would say this as, “Area equals pi r squared.” So what kind of imagery can we create so that we can easily recall the formula for the test? One possibility is to imagine a pastry shop in which the pastry chef walks into the back of the shop where all the freshly-baked pies are cooling and sees with astonishment that the whole bench has been covered with pies baked by his assistant in the chef’s absence: and in the entire area the pies are square! The funny imagery forms a neural hook on which to hang your ideas (formulas/facts/data).

Peg system

If you find yourself needing to memorise lists of information or want to keep something in mind, you can use a mnemonic peg system, which uses numbers or letters of the alphabet as the “pegs” upon which you “hang” objects you want to remember. So, for example, rhyming pegs associate rhyming words with the numbers one through ten. For example, if you have vowed to enhance your personal wellness through greater exposure to sunshine, rest, good diet, and sufficient exercise, you might remind yourself daily with “one, two, three, four”, like this: one is for “sun”; two is for “snooze”; three means “green tea” (and other healthy, anti-oxidant foods); four is for “door” (go out of it and get some exercise!).

Eliminate unrelated associations

Almost the opposite of the Peg system, in which you are trying to create useful linkages, this technique calls upon you to get rid of connections which are unhelpful and/or which you may have formed inadvertently. For example, let’s say you often study for a HRM course while you are watching the news. One week, you are studying recruitment practices all week. The trouble is, during that week, the international news is flooded with information about the Middle East refugee crisis, so in your mind, the recruitment strategies you are learning become paired with the idea of interviewing someone from the Middle East. There is, of course, nothing inherently wrong with this, except that the company you later come to work for may recruit heavily from within the country, and strategies that you would employ for interviewing an international candidate for a job may be totally differen t from strategies for a “domestic” candidate, thus rendering your “accidental” pairing unhelpful.

Explain to others; study with others

These are actually two separate techniques, but very related to one another. The basic idea is that you learn (and thus can remember) something better if you are able to discuss it with or explain it to others. Let’s say you are exposed to a new concept which is exciting to you. You can’t help but want to share it with your partner. But your partner is not taking the course you are, nor even working in the same field. So in order to get the basic idea across, you have to explain it rather simply. If you can put it into words that a ten year old would understand, you probably get it, but if not, at least you will see where the holes in your understanding are. There are analogies for just about everything, so try using simile and metaphor to illustrate your concept.

Similarly, hearing about a new concept which we believe we “understand”, our brain tends to automatically activate the sensation of “I am right about this”. But if you want to get a “reality check” on your new “learning”, try discussing your new understandings with colleagues studying the same thing. You find out fairly quickly if you are right or not; again, even if you were not “right” in your initial understanding, you get some wonderful insights by comparing notes/understandings in discussions with others.

Put yourself in the picture

With this technique for remembering, like many of the others above, you call on several of your senses in order to recall something. What you do for this one is “walk around” in a given scene with which you are trying to familiarise yourself, seeing/feeling/hearing what it feels like there “on the ground”. This is a favourite of several Nobel Prize winners, so you are in good company if you use this one (Oakley, 2015).

Use mechanical aids: Flashcards, anyone?

Aids such as flashcards can help with practice and with visual reinforcement. For instance, if you are trying to remember various counselling techniques, you could have the technique on one side of the card and the school or philosophy to which it belongs on the other side. In this way, you are not only reminding yourself of various techniques which you want to be able to explain readily; you are also creating “chunks” by constructing a larger sense of a jigsaw puzzle for each school of counselling, with the various techniques belonging to it being akin to the various jigsaw puzzle pieces that form the total picture. A good night’s sleep after a practice recalling these (either side of the card, cued from the other) will help you to consolidate the “pictures”.

Use your passion

Utilise your natural interest in the subject you are studying to generate the motivation to practice and review material. If some of the topics seem boring, remind yourself why you are learning them (e.g., they are relevant to the larger goal of working in a new field).

Learn from the past; be flexible

We all make mistakes; the biggest mistake might be to fail to learn from them. Use the concept of “negative practice”, in which you track past mistakes, analysing what went wrong and taking steps to eliminate the problems. In the same vein, flexibility will help you to refrain from relying on outdated learning methods; by adaptably taking on new methods, your brain is forced to create new patterns (section adapted loosely from Oakley, 2015; College Atlas, 2014).

How Resistance, Avoidance and Acting Out Thwart the Emotional Healing Process
by Joe B on Wed, March 29, 2017at 04:38 am

Equator Hypnotherapy –

Sometimes in the course of this work you find yourself up against a seemingly impenetrable barrier with your feelings/pain on the other side, unreachable. Since your intent is to heal your pain and honor your emotions, this may seem baffling. Isn’t intent enough to draw the feelings in? Unfortunately, no.

Remember that you have layers and layers of conditioning and imprinting to overcome. And the resistance comes from more than one source.

There is the resistance in your conscious self, from your mind. Mind fears the chaos of emotions, and especially when the emotions begin to come forward and try to have life (expression), and are all clamoring for a place at the front. Mind experiences this as a pushing, a pressure, and responds usually by pushing back. Mind also fears being overwhelmed by the sheer volume of emotion that it (secretly) knows is lurking just on the other side of that closed door. To mind it feels as if opening the door one little crack will cause a giant tsunami to come crashing down, resulting in chaos and madness. Knowing how mind perceives emotions will help, because mind needs reassurance for its fears.

There is resistance that comes from years and years of conditioning or training, from living in our current society with it’s commonly accepted norms and misunderstandings about crying. It will be somewhat easier for women to overcome these barriers, but only a little. Don’t underestimate the power of the collective unconscious, the belief system our cultural agreements hold in place. It is binding at a deeply subconscious level, and breaking through it takes time, huge effort, and lots of emotional healing.

Then there is the resistance of the gap itself. The gap is the dark place, the blind spot between you and your fragmented self, the blank place between the light and the dark, between conscious and unconscious. This dark place is populated with energies that feed off your denied emotional essence. These energies have great intent to survive, and their survival depends on you never reconnecting with and moving with your feelings. If you reclaim your denied feelings, you remove their food source! They will lie to you, they will provoke your terror of moving your feelings, they will tell you all this is a lie, they will do anything they can to prevent you from crying your pain and reclaiming your power. Don’t underestimate these foes, but know that they have no real power once the feelings are moving and your Soul is vibrating.

Lastly, and saddest of all, there is resistance from the feelings themselves. These feelings, sitting on the other side of the closed door in the dark, without love or light, have taken on a life of their own, and in a horrible twist of denial, a part of them believes that you are their enemy. They resist coming forward. They resist trusting you, and sometimes resist the very movement that is their only salvation. They have been judged by mind and spirit and the world. They have been tortured and maimed and killed any time they moved toward expression. They have been made to believe that any movement will bring down the wrath of God once again. And their fears are real. Give them as much reassurance as you can when you call to them, as much gentleness as you can.

The Many Faces of Resistance

At first you may not be able to tell where the resistance is coming from. At first you may not recognize it within yourself. So, your first task is merely to notice. Pay attention to your emotional and physical responses to things. Watch your body. Don’t try, at first, to overcome the resistance. This first task is just to see what it looks and feels like, if you can.

For instance, resistance may show as a sudden complete detachment from a feeling that was there just a moment ago. You were triggered and angry, and — suddenly the anger just evaporated. Trust me, it didn’t go away or magically heal itself. It just stepped across the barrier and out of your conscious awareness. Unless you continue to push it away from you, it will be back. Your intent to heal will draw it back to you.

It may show in your body, in a slow clenching of one part of your body or another. Do you have chronic back pain? Difficulty breathing at times? Problems with digestion? These may be places where your body is holding suppressed emotional pain from surfacing to your awareness. Know that at some time in the long ago past, you required your body to hold this pain, your survival depended on the feelings not being felt or known or showing. But things are different now, and body must be given permission, and encouraged to let go of the feelings and let them express. Body will probably be terrified by this, having usually experienced plenty of painful recriminations for showing feelings.

Resistance may cleverly try to disguise a painful feeling as another feeling. For instance, fear may try to hide behind or mask itself as rage, or vice versa.

It may take the form of a gremlin. Gremlins are thoughts and impulses that keep you spinning in your mind and away from your feelings. They most often use your own self-hate against you in order to keep you separate from your healing. The gremlin may tell you “That feeling is stupid … insignificant… not worth bothering over… petty… wrong… bad…” etc., etc., etc.

If you find your mind spinning down strange memory pathways, remembering things you did or said (something bad or wrong or stupid) or feel bad about; if you find your mind spinning in recreating arguments you had with someone or imagining scenarios where you tell somebody off, for instance, but no tears come, you can bet you’re victim to a gremlin. You need to stop the thoughts and let yourself cry if you can.

Acting Out

One of the most visible (and twisted) manifestations of resistance is called acting out. All kinds of feelings act themselves out.

Rage is the most commonly acted out feeling. Rage does need acceptance and expression. But being so misunderstood and heavily judged against, it has been easily twisted and turned around, used as a means for resistance and denial to continue instead of coming to healing. Consider for a moment that when rage stops acting out and begins to cry (yes, rage cries — if you find this hard to believe, spend some time around an angry infant) it becomes vulnerable. Rage hates feeling vulnerable worst of all, and will avoid such weakness at all cost. Acting out is one of its favorite ways to avoid feeling vulnerable.

Fear/terror manifests avoidance behaviors by acting out also. One very common avoidance behavior is manipulation/control. Fear believes that if it can manage/control it’s environment and everybody in it, it will be safe. It has never been able to cry and find relief, so it resorts to trying to stop everybody from doing whatever it is that feels unsafe. Contain the danger. Fear will often try to play on other people’s fears or guilt to get them to behave and get into line.

Another of terror’s avoidance behavior is acting out the victim role. Just like the dog who shows his subservience by cowering and lying down, terror will often act small and obsequious in order to stay safe.

Self-hate acts out both covertly and overtly. Self-destructive behaviors, such as compulsions, addictions, “accidents”, all help to keep the real feelings from surfacing. And self-hate is some of the most difficult pain to cry — often laced with real shame, and sometimes accompanied by physical pains, especially when the self-hate has been hate of one’s own body. When self-hate can’t get you to act out on yourself, it will often find someone else to do it. This acting out runs the full range from very subtle guilt, to verbal abuse, all the way to the extreme, such as victims of physical abuse. Getting the real self-hate moving will help you be able to extricate yourself from abusive situations, and draw to you more positive reflections.

Psychology has delved into these acting out behaviors and has tried to “manage” them in a variety of ways. I tell you, the only way to stop the acting out is to cry the real pain underneath.

And sometimes, the only way to get to the pain underneath, is to stop the acting out. When acting out is a part of your resistance behaviors, and you’re not getting to ignition, then you need to stop all the behaviors that you’re doing. The rule of thumb is, if you’re not getting to ignition, then whatever you’re doing isn’t working, isn’t healing, and is probably some form of resistance.

Getting Past the Roadblocks

For some, getting in touch with feelings and buried memories is easy. For these lucky few, merely noticing the resistance will be enough to overcome it. It will be simply a process of seeing the wall and walking around it or over it or through it. For others, for most of us, it’s not that easy. The vast majority of us have childhood programming and societal restrictions to overcome, and the gap we experience between our consciousness and our feelings is a door that is not only shut, but 6 feet thick, made of concrete, and securely locked.

Be Clever…

I’ve become aware over the years that my resistance is slippery. A tactic I used yesterday may not work today. My resistance has become expert at avoiding me and real release. But I have become expert at watching for and finding where my resistance is holding my real pain hostage. Be creative, be flexible, and most of all, be persistant. You cannot fail if your true intent is to bring in and heal all of yourself.

Here is a list of some techniques that have been helpful in getting through that locked door:
Ways of Overcoming Resistance

This list is not rigid or by any means finished. The wonder of our creative abilities is that no matter what we are faced with, we can come up with new and creative ways to overcome the challenges. This list is merely offered as things you can try. A place to begin, if you are having trouble getting to ignition.

Primarily, I use this as a guideline: take it to the mat. Let the pain cry first, and don’t let it interact verbally with other people. As much as possible, bring the feelings to a safe and private healing place, with someone you trust or alone, with a pillow and a box of kleenex. Any interaction with others — except for those within the release arena, such as role playing — will probably come from your resistance, avoidance, and/or acting out. Until you’ve cried the pain and can feel the relief of healing, you need to treat yourself and others carefully. Know that everyone is doing the very best they can at any given moment, but we are all operating out of our pain. Each person is trustworthy only as far as they have themselves healed and are not in denial.

And if you find yourself jumping into the fray of a fight, don’t beat yourself up about it. It may be that you need some radical explosions to get your stuff triggered. Of course, it may be rage wanting to act out, but as long as you let it cry, it will all get sorted out. Forgive yourself for any acting out you do … you are still a work in progress!

Remember that much of your pain is separate from you because it was either unacceptable to you, too overwhelming to deal with at the time it was happening, or simply accumulated to become too large a burden for you to carry. We had no knowledge of how to heal these things until recently. We didn’t know that allowing ourselves to cry the pain would keep it from accumulating. So now we are wading back through eons and eons of backlog. This is not an easy process. Take it slowly and in small chunks. Baby steps will make it bearable.

Go forward, at whatever pace you can. You are very courageous.

A breath of fresh air – How to Quit smoking for good!
by Joe B on Sat, January 14, 2017at 02:04 am

Hypnotherapists help many smokers achieve their goal of quitting on a regular basis.  It is a well-known area of their work, and the results they produce are quite astounding, that’s why so many ex-smokers send their friends and family members to them.  Deciding to become a smoker is not a decision that most people take logically.  It is an emotional decision taken at a subconscious level.  Therefore, any decision to stop needs to be taken at that same level.  Quite simply, this is why hypnosis is such a successful way to give up smoking cigarettes.  Many people considering stopping smoking feel that their true choice is being taken away from them.  The secret of hypnotherapy is that it gets people to use their imagination to create a non-smoking future.  This often feels very positive and empowering.  Stopping smoking becomes the positive and definite choice.

Many smokers smoke because of other reasons. They maybe stressed at work, have a bad realtionship they are dealing with or just bored. The hypnotherapist can drill down these reasons and work with the client to understand these reason. A client can not just stop without addressing these issues because the habit will just manifest into something else. An example of this maybe that they start eating more to replace the comfort smoking has had on their life. They may gain weight and thus create a new issue in their lives. It is important for the therpaist to solve these issues, address them and find solutions. The stop smoking hypnotherapy will be much more sucessful and will also allow the client to have a healthier and happier life.

Many smokers smoke because it is a habit. They may just do it everytime they have a drink or are around other smokers. If this is the case the stop smoking hypnotherapy will prove to be very sucessful by including a lot of positive affirmation about their health, the money they will save and the confidence that they are stopping on their own and for themselves. Placing strong positve stratergies in place will enable the client to say no to cigerettes for ever and not turn back. Having a positive belief system allows the client to know that they are able to achieve their goal.

Joe Busuttil
Clinical Hypnotherapist
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