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by Joe B on Wed, August 02, 2017at 12:09 pm

Equator Insight # 4

 

Motivation creator – Change therapy
by Joe B on Mon, July 31, 2017at 00:18 am

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne we assist clients daily to change their motivation levels and find what they are looking for…

Motivation is central to creativity, productivity, and happiness. Motivation is what causes us to act, and when we act, we create movement, growth, and change; we feel involved, masterful, and significant; we feel powerful through experiencing how we can change the world; and we create more of what we love in our lives. And all of this gives our lives purpose and happiness.

Demotivation is like snow

Most of us have just one conception of demotivation, which means that whenever you’re unmotivated, you’re likely to assume that you’re struggling with the same problem, when in fact demotivation is a category of problems, containing many variations. When you have just one kind of demotivation, you’ll apply the same old strategies whenever you feel unmotivated; for many people, those strategies look like this: set goals, push harder, create accountability checks that will push you, and run your life using GTD methods and to-do lists. These strategies are ineffective with most types of demotivation, and in some instances they can even make you more unmotivated.

At its essence, demotivation is about your not being fully committed to act, and there are many reasons why you might be in that position. Having more ways to categorize your demotivation will help you to identify the real reasons for your unwillingness to commit to action, so that you can pick the right tools and strategies to get motivated again.

Here are 10 types of demotivation and the strategies that will help you to get motivated again :

1) You’re demotivated by fear

When you’re afraid, even if you’re entering territory that you’ve chosen to move into, a part of you is determined to avoid going forward. Fear slows you down and makes you hesitant and careful, which can be beneficial to you, but sometimes your fears are based on your imagination rather than on an accurate assessment of the risks in your reality. If your fear is big enough, even if you’re also excited to go forward, the part of you that wants to keep you safe can successfully prevent you from going forward into territory that’s both desirable and safe.

How to get motivated again: To get motivated, you need to deal with your fear. Start by naming your fears so that they’re out in the open. Remember to say a gentle “thank you” to your fears – they’re trying to protect you, after all. Then question your fears: “Why am I afraid of that happening?” “What are the chances that would really happen?” Some of your fears will slip away now.

Look at the fears that are left. What are they telling you about the research you need to do, the gaps you need to fill, and the risk management strategies you need to put in place? Honor that wisdom by building it into your plan. Finally, consider breaking down the changes you’re wanting to make into smaller steps and focusing on just the next few small steps – this will calm your fears.

2) You’re demotivated by setting the wrong goals

Your Essential Self is the part of you that’s spontaneous and creative and playful, the part that knows what’s most important to you. Your Social Self is the part of you that has been developing since the day you were born, learning the rules of the tribe and working hard to make sure that you’re safe by making you follow the rules of the tribe.

We’re all surrounded by so many messages that feed into our Social Selves and we’re keen to impress our tribes. When you feel unmotivated, it’s because you’re setting goals based purely on what your Social Self wants and this is pulling you away from the direction your Essential Self wants you to take. Your Essential Self uses demotivation to slow you down and to detach you from the toxic goals you’ve set.

How to get motivated again: Take some time to review your goals. Because your Essential Self is non-verbal, you can easily access your Essential Self through your body. Notice how your body responds as you think of each of the goals you’re trying to work on. When your body (and particularly your breathing) shows signs of tightness and constriction, that’s a pretty good indication that you’re trying to follow toxic goals. If you get a constricted reaction, scrap your current goals and question all your stories about what you “should” do with your life. Notice what makes you smile spontaneously or lose track of time, and set goals related to that stuff instead.

3) You’re demotivated by lack of clarity about what you want

When you haven’t consciously and clearly articulated what you want, your picture of your future will be vague. We like what’s familiar, so we resist what’s unfamiliar and vague and we stay with and re-create what’s familiar to us. If you’re not clear about what you want to create, then it makes sense that you’ll lack motivation to act because you’d rather stay with your current familiar reality.

How to get motivated again: If you want to create something different from what you’ve been experiencing, it’s not enough to just know what you don’t want. You need to know what you do want, and you need to articulate a clear and specific vision of what you want to create so that you can become familiar with that new outcome and feel comfortable moving toward it. Take some time to articulate what you want and why you want it.

4) You’re demotivated by a values conflict

Your values are what’s important to you in life. If you have a values conflict, it means that there are two or more values that are important to you but you believe that you can’t satisfy all of those values in a particular situation. This situation causes you to feel conflicted and pulled in different directions as you try to find ways to get what’s important to you. You might have brief spurts of motivation to work on something and then lose motivation and start working on something else, or your motivation might dry up altogether because the effort of dealing with internal conflict quickly tires you out and saps your energy.

How to get motivated again: You need to unpack your values conflict and play mediator to get the parts of you that are advocating for different values to play on the same team again. Start with acknowledging the internal conflict. Grab a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle so that you have two columns. Write about the two different directions you feel pulled in, one in each column, and summarize it with a statement of what each part wants. Now pick one column and chunk it up: “Why does this part want that? What does it hope to get as a result of having that?” Keep asking the questions and writing your answers until you feel that you’ve hit on the result that this part of you ultimately wants. Now do the same for the other part, and notice when you get to the level where the answers in the two columns are the same.

Ultimately, all of the parts of you always want the same thing, because they’re all you. Now that you know what you really want, you can evaluate the strategies that each part had been advocating for and decide which strategy would work best.

Often, once you’re clear on what you really want, you spot new strategies for getting it that you hadn’t noticed before. Sometimes by doing this exercise you’ll find ways to satisfy all of your values, but sometimes that’s not possible. If you’ve taken time to think through your values and you’ve consciously chosen to prioritize a particular value over your other values for a while, this clarity will ease the internal conflict and your motivation will return.

5) You’re demotivated by lack of autonomy

We thrive on autonomy. We all have a decision-making center in our brains and this part of us needs to be exercised. Studies have found that this decision-making center in the brain is under-developed in people who have depression and that if you practice using this part of the brain and making decisions, depression often clears.

How to get motivated again: Consider how much autonomy you have in relation to the goals you’ve been trying to pursue. Are there areas where you feel constricted and controlled? Consider how you could gradually introduce more autonomy in your task, time, technique, location, and team, and then, if you’re employed, have a discussion with your manager and ask for greater autonomy in a few specific areas of your work.

6) You’re demotivated by lack of challenge

Challenge is another crucial ingredient for motivation. When it comes to dealing with challenges, there’s a sweet spot. Too great a challenge, and the fear becomes too great and saps our motivation (see point 1), and if the challenge is too small, we quickly get bored and struggle to stay motivated. We’re designed to be living, growing creatures and we need constant challenges and opportunities to master new skills. Without challenges, our Essential Self steps in and demotivates us as a way of telling us that we’ve departed from the path that’s right for us.

How to get motivated again: Review your goals and the projects you’re working on. Are they challenging you? Are they going to require you to grow in order to achieve them, or are you treading water in your comfort zone, doing only the things you know you can do? Try tweaking your goals to make them a bit more challenging, take on projects that will require you to grow, and find a new thing or two to learn to stimulate yourself.

7) You’re demotivated by grief

At the beginning of any change, we go through a phase of wondering if we should or could hang on to the way things were and grieving what we’ll be losing if we make significant changes. Confusion, self-doubt, mistrust of the world around us, and feeling lost are common symptoms, and the bigger the change, the more powerful these symptoms. Sometimes we even go through a bit of depression and social withdrawal. With all the grieving and fearing and feeling lost that go on in this phase, it’s normal for your motivation to dry up.

How to get motivated again: If you’ve just experienced a trauma or loss, or you’re going through a major change and finding that there are days where you’re hit hard with Death and Rebirth symptoms, don’t try to make yourself motivated and proactive. You can’t rush grieving or the undoing of your old life and ways of thinking, and you can’t skip the Death and Rebirth phase and go straight into Dreaming and Scheming.

You need to give yourself a lot of space for nurturing and reflection. Look after your body with good food, rest, and exercise. Express your grief, confusion, and fears with people who can listen lovingly. Spend time in nature and with calm, loving people to center yourself. Accept every feeling and thought you have – they’re all normal and safe. Take one day at a time and go easy on yourself. Confusion, forgetfulness, and clumsiness are all normal in this stage. The grieving will end when it’s ready, and if you relax into it and express your grief, it’ll be sooner rather than later.

8) You’re demotivated by loneliness

This is an especially important one for those of us who work alone from home. You know those days when you feel a bit cabin-feverish, you just don’t feel like working, and you’d rather be out having a drink with a friend or playing a game of soccer? Well, perhaps it’s because we’re designed to be social creatures and sometimes your Essential Self is just longing for some connection with other people, and so it steps in and hijacks your work motivation so that you’ll take a break from work and go spend some time with other people and give your Essential Self what it needs.

How to get motivated again: Take a break and go spend some time with someone you enjoy. You may be surprised at the motivating impact this has and find yourself much more clear and productive when you return to your work. And then look for ways that you can begin to build more networking into our day.

9) You’re demotivated by burnout

I attract overachieving Type A’s, and as a recovering Type A myself, I know that sometimes we’re banging on about wanting to get more done even after we’ve exceeded the limit on what’s sustainable. If you’re feeling tired all the time, you’ve lost your energy for socializing, and the idea of taking a snooze sounds more compelling than the stuff you’re usually interested in, then you’ve probably pushed yourself too long and hard and you may be burned out.

Your Essential Self will always work to motivate you to move toward what you most need and away from goals, projects, and ways of working that take you away from what your Essential Self craves. So if you’re burned out and needing sleep, your Essential Self may even sap the motivation from the things that you’re usually really ignited about – just to get you to meet your core needs again.

How to get motivated again: Sleep. And then when you’re done sleeping and the quality of your thinking has been restored, check back in with your Essential Self about what’s most important to you, and start building ways to do more of what’s important to you.

10) You’re demotivated by not knowing what to do next

Your end-goal might be nice and clear, but if you haven’t taken time to chunk it down into smaller goals, you’ll get stuck, confused, and unmotivated when it’s time to take action. Some projects are small and familiar enough that they don’t need a plan, but if you’re often worrying that you don’t know what to do next and you don’t have a clear plan, then this might be the source of your demotivation.

How to get motivated again: If you want to keep your motivation flowing steadily through all stages of your projects, take time to create clear project plans.

Use your fears to point you to the potential risks you need to manage in your plan. Write down all of your “I-don’t-know-how-to” concerns and turn these into research questions. The first part of any planning stage is research, and you’ll find new research questions along the way, so realize that conducting research should be part of your action plan at every stage of your project. Finally, ask yourself what smaller goals need to be achieved for you to achieve your end-goal, and schedule deadlines for yourself.

Goal-setting and pushing are rarely the answer

Goal-setting, planning, organizing, and accountability structures are often touted as the big solution to demotivation and the silver bullet that will get you creative and productive again, but notice that it’s a useful strategy for dealing with only some types of demotivation. With many other types of demotivation, goal-setting, planning, organizing, and accountability structures will only make your demotivation problem worse.

Over to you…

Have you been able to pinpoint the types of demotivation that you tend to struggle with most?
Are you stuck in demotivation right now?
What do you need, and which motivation strategy is going to give you what you need right now?

Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling Melbourne
Joe Busuttil

Changing Stress around using Hypnotherapy
by Joe B on Wed, July 19, 2017at 09:39 am

Stress is usually characterised as an unpleasant and unwelcome feeling that expresses itself both physically and mentally. The effects of stress range from irritability and anxiety to raised blood pressure and heart disease. When you think of stress in these terms, it’s no wonder you spend so much time trying to manage or avoid it altogether.

Hypnotherapy can release stress effectively and fast. Learning how to process stress is key.

But what if, instead of stressing over how to rid your life of stress, you focused on ways to use it to your advantage? What would happen if you perceived stress as a helpful companion with benefits to offer rather than as an irritating foe out to make your life harder?

Benefits of Stress
Often when you think of stress, the first thing to come to mind are its negative symptoms (i.e., panic, headache, tightening in the chest, etc.). But stress actually has an abundance of benefits to offer, such as:

Motivating Action

Stress can serve as a great motivator for reaching goals or accomplishing simple tasks. Whether it’s landing a new job promotion, meeting a deadline, or tackling a to-do list, a little stress can push you to take action. If you didn’t feel any stress at all, you might not feel inclined to break out of your comfort zone, which is essential for personal growth.

Building Resiliency

When you experience small amounts of stress, you are actually building up your resistance to future stressors. According to the American Psychological Association, over time humans are wired to adapt to stressful situations by building resilience, which can be developed by:

Making connections with others
Taking care of yourself
Taking decisive actions
Boosting Cognitive Function

Optimal levels of focus
Improved memory
Enhanced learning of new tasks
Using Stress to Your Advantage
If stress has its benefits, then how do you take advantage of them? How can you make stress work for you rather than against you?

Retrain Your Brain

As previously discussed, how you view stress can determine how it affects you. Retraining the brain to view stress as a helpful tool rather than a roadblock will take time as the latter has likely become deeply ingrained. While it will take some practice, it is possible to change your response when stress rears its head.

Replace the negative thoughts that typically arise at the first sign of stress with more positive ones, such as, I’m experiencing stress and welcome it fully. Then, think of how you could best use it to solve a problem or reach a goal. How can you make the stress work for you?

Tip: Don’t stress over trying to think of a way to best use stress! This strategy will get easier over time. If you’re unable to think of how to take advantage of whatever stressor you’re facing, simply accept that it’s there. Sit with it rather than flee from it.

Reframe Your Perspective

When you attach purpose to a difficult situation, it becomes easier to handle or, at the very least, motivates you to handle it. When you reframe stressors in order to add meaning to your life, you are giving your stress a positive purpose.

Perhaps its purpose is one of the above benefits discussed such as motivating behavior, building resilience, or boosting cognitive performance, or it could be something else entirely. Pairing stress with a purpose will allow you to broaden your perspective as to why it exists and the benefits it provides.

Ask Why

Sometimes you feel stressed and can easily identify the cause; other times you’re unsure where it stems from. Pinpointing the root cause of your stress puts you in a position to work with it rather than against it. When you feel the symptoms of stress, either physically or psychologically, but don’t know what’s brought it on, you may feel as though you aren’t in control of what’s happening. However, identifying its origins and approaching it within a more positive framework puts you back in the driver’s seat.

Stress is a part of everyday life, and as much as you might try to will it away, it will inevitably creep up again. By making stress your ally, you can learn to use it to your advantage and perhaps even learn something new in the process. So next time you’re feeling stressed, accept it as part of the journey and embrace it whole-heartedly. You might be surprised by the result.

New Moon – Singing Crystal and Tibetan Bowl Sound bath meditation – Tuesday 22nd August, 2017
by Joe B on Mon, July 17, 2017at 02:11 am

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Equator Therapies presents Joe Busuttil and Suzanne Mills for another amazing Singing Crystal and Tibetan Bowl NEW MOON Sound bath.

THIS EVENT WILL SELL OUT – (only 18 spots available)
At the new moon we meditate on receiving the influx of energies available to humanity at this time of reflection of maximum light.
The entire solar system of a variety of bowls will be played so it’s truly a celestial experience! The new moon is a time to release, let go of what is standing in your way of receiving your intentions and a wonderful time to gather with friends – or your local sound bath community.
**Please bring a mat, blanket, and anything else you may need to be comfortable laying on the wooden floor. Mats are not provided at this time.

***STAY FOR A CUP OF TEA AFTERWARDS***

Advanced registration required, space limited to 18.

HQ Rooftop
370 St Kilda Road,
Melbourne

$25

Tickets:

https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/new-moon-singing-crystal-and-tibetan-bowl-sound-bath-tickets-36052532094

Releasing Control using Hypnotherapy
by Joe B on Wed, July 12, 2017at 04:03 am

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Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne – CONTROL

There’s one thing that I find crops up time and time again when I work with people in a hypnotherapy capacity. It usually comes wrapped up in various guises or stories, but once we drill down through all of the layers, we end up at the same place. I know I have been there myself personally. I’m talking about one small but very powerful word.

Control.

That’s right. Often people will come to me with a huge, long, winding story about something that is frustrating them and stopping them from achieving what they want. We will talk it through and more often than not there will be an element of control involved. The types of control issues vary, including feelings of being out of control to a desire to try and control others or certain situations.

Why oh why do we love to Control?

As human beings, what is it that’s so alluring about control? I see a few common beliefs crop up with clients who feel the need to control.

The first is that control = security. People feel safe when they are in control. If they are in the drivers seat then everything is OK. They have got it handled. That nothing can go wrong!

The second is that control = certainty. This is probably one of the biggest beliefs that I see. As humans, we crave certainty like nothing else. We just want to know what will happen so we don’t have to worry about anything! In-fact a desire for control often stems from a desire to predict the future. We try to come up with a plan for the worst case scenario.

The irony is that both of these beliefs are complete nonsense because there is actually no such thing as control. We are never in control. Ever.

This is a fact of life. And in my experience, the sooner we grasp this and learn to go with life flow a little more, the easier life will be.

In-fact as morbid as it sounds, the only certainty we have in life is death. This is the only guarantee. We know for sure that one day we will die. But that’s it folks! Nothing else is certain! No matter how much we may fool ourselves into believing it so.

I myself have been working on going with the flow a little more and letting go of my old habit of over-planning. The over-achiever in me still rears it’s ugly head every now and then and tries to control certain outcomes by planning everything to a tee. The thing is, what I’ve noticed during my own control experiment is that when you trust that things will work out, things often flow much better than you could have ever planned. And it’s a much easier way of living without all of that over-planning!

Now I’m not saying to do away with all formal planning and just hope for life to drop things into your lap. That would be foolish. Of course, we still need to make loose plans to get things done. We can however, be open to ‘how’ things get done. Being open to the idea that we take action to make stuff happen but then we remain open to how the results form.

Why control is dangerous

The thing is, when we rely on control to make us feel good (ie when we have it we feel great, but when we don’t we feel terrible), we will constantly be on this rollercoaster ride otherwise known as life. We will never feel consistently happy. And the unfortunate part of the equation is that more often than not, we will be disappointed, because as I mentioned before, control does not really exist (except in the mind).

The only thing that control can guarantee you is a lifetime of frustration. I know people who try to control the tiniest of things. For example, the speed of their computer or the traffic flow or the way the wind is blowing. I see them boil up with anger and frustration as they desperately attempt to control these things that are essentially out of their control. And it always ends the same way – in defeat. Because the reality is that we cannot control these things, we can only work with them. Quite frankly, it looks exhausting!

The alternative to control

So what other options do we have? And why should we give up our beloved control in the first place? Well, I have a proposition for you.

Think of the world as if it were one huge dance floor, and life as one beautiful, flowing dance. Each time the music changes, you effortlessly dance to a different beat. You flow with the music instead of against it. You don’t try and control the music! And it’s the constant changes in the music that make the dance of life so exciting and fun! How boring would it be if we were to dance to the same tiresome tune our entire lives?

This is how the happiest and most successful people live their lives. They dance to the rhythm of life and they look at each challenge or each thing that is out of their control as an opportunity to shine. They adapt and they mold into the circumstances that are thrown at them! They sure as hell don’t try and control them! How ludicrous to try and control something that cannot be controlled! What an utter waste of time!

And the irony is that the more they let go and go with the flow, the more control they actually have over their lives 🙂

Simple Life Strategy: How to Stop Trying to Control Everything using the conscious and subconscious minds. Hypnotherapy assists with letting go.

1. Consider what your beliefs are about control? Why is it so important to you?

2. Ask yourself this question: “What do I gain from control?”

3. Once you have an answer, check in to see if you really do gain what you think you do! (usually the answer here is no)

4. Consider the concept that there is no such thing as control and the only certainty we have in life is death (a heady subject, but a useful one nonetheless)

5. Choose to let go of any beliefs you have around control

6. Experiment by noticing the next time you feel the need to control something and simply decide to just go with the flow and see what happens

7. Take this a step further and start to look for opportunities when things out of your control pop up. How can you use this as a positive?

Joe Busuttil
Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling – Melbourne

QUIT smoking today using Hypnotherapy.
by Joe B on Mon, July 10, 2017at 04:16 am

You can reduce your risk with Hypnotherapy. At Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne were works with smokers everyday, and make them non-smokers.

Smoking is the most preventable cause of premature death in the Australia. Smokers have a higher risk of developing many chronic disorders, including atherosclerosis — the buildup of fatty substances in the arteries. Controlling or reversing atherosclerosis is an important part of preventing future heart attack or stroke.

You can modify or control seven major independent risks:

Cigarette and tobacco smoke
High blood cholesterol
High blood pressure
Physical inactivity
Overweight or obesity
Diabetes
Healthy Diet

Smoking by itself increases the risk of coronary heart disease.

When it acts with the other factors, it greatly increases your risk from those factors, too. Smoking decreases your tolerance for physical activity and increases the tendency for blood to clot. It decreases HDL (good) cholesterol. Your risks increase greatly if you smoke and have a family history of heart disease. Smoking also creates a higher risk for peripheral artery disease and aortic aneurysm. It increases the risk of recurrent coronary heart disease after bypass surgery, too.

Smoking is also an important risk factor for stroke. Inhaling cigarette smoke produces several effects that damage the cerebrovascular system. Women who take oral contraceptives and smoke increase their risk of stroke many times. Cigars and pipes aren’t a “safer” alternative to cigarettes. People who smoke cigars or pipes also have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease and death than non-smokers.

Breathe clean air.

It’s also important to avoid other people’s smoke. The link between secondhand smoke (also called environmental tobacco smoke) and disease is well known, and the connection to cardiovascular-related disability and death is also clear. Each year about 34,000 adults die from heart and blood vessel disease caused by other people’s smoke. The risk of stroke for nonsmokers who are exposed to secondhand smoke is increased by an estimated 20–30 percent.

Let healing begin today.

If you already have heart disease, you may think, “What good will it do me to quit smoking now?” But don’t be discouraged. Your lungs can begin to heal themselves as soon as you stop harming them with more smoke. Heart disease can be prevented and controlled, but you must follow your treatment plan — and quitting smoking is a big part.

Hypnotherapy really helps STOP smoking. Contact Joe at Equator Hypnotherapy Melbourne too find out how.

Opening up to Emotions.
by Joe B on Thu, June 22, 2017at 05:14 am

Why Do People Bottle Up Their Emotions?

– They are unable to fight back in an argument situation (e.g., the “opponent” is more dominant)
– They think that if they show their emotions it is a sign of weakness.
– They believe it is not normal to be feeling a certain way, so try to conceal their emotions from others.
– They are afraid of what other people might think.
– They feel that they have to deal with their emotions or problems on their own because “no one else will understand.”
– A situation may have occurred that has placed someone in shock and they just don’t know how to deal with it or they just block it out because don’t fully understand it makes them feel (or don’t feel) a certain way.
– They feel they have to be “the rock” for others.
– They don’t want to be hurt so they swallow their emotions back down.

What Happens When You Bottle Up Your Emotions

– You can get to a stage where you have bottled up your emotions to the point you “explode.” Often the victims are loved ones, friends, and co-workers.
– You turn to escapism (alcohol, cigarettes, drugs) for short term solutions, to avoid confronting your emotions.
– You become depressed and numb, and you don’t know how to get out of the situation.
– Often the pent-up emotions will manifest themselves physically in the form of diseases and can make you very ill.
– Some people commit suicide because they see no other way out.

Ways To Release Those Bottled-Up Emotions

Write. Putting your feelings down on paper not only enables you to begin unloading your emotional baggage, it also allows you to process the situation so that perhaps you may a) gain objectivity, b) understand the other person’s point of view, and more importantly c) be free to move on with the more important and pleasant things in life. Plus, if you do this regularly in the form of a journal or diary it makes a fascinating read many years later.

Music. If you play an instrument, write a song about what is bothering you. Not only is it a release, it is a way to take that negative energy and be creative with it positively. The song may be dark in subject or it may have some explicit lyrics but you will have fun putting it together and feel empowered every time you perform it or listen to the recording. Sometimes it may be a song that no one else will hear, but that’s fine. It would have served its purpose. If you’re not musically inclined, listen to someone else’s song about a similar subject. Music has the power to move you deeply and by the same token has the power to heal.

Confide in someone. If you feel you can’t talk to the people in your immediate circle, look outside it. If you know someone you haven’t been in touch with for years, give them a call and see if you can catch up. They do not know the details of your life as they have been out of contact so may be able to provide an objective point of view or “outside advice”. Sometimes its good to speak to a counsellor to assist you to find solutions to move past the blockage. Hypnotherapy works really well with this process.

Meditate. Quieten the mind, breathe and listen to the subconscious. In may times this process helps open ups and connect you to your emotions.

Connect with pets or nature. If you’re uncomfortable talking to people, try nature. Animals are not dumb. In fact, they often sense the emotions of their owners or other humans. You’ve heard stories of dogs howling when their owners have passed away in the other room, or stories about plants growing more quickly to a bigger size when exposed to music.

Everybody bottles up their emotions at some point. The trick is to realise that doing so is not healthy. When you learn to let go of the hurt or anger or frustration within and are no longer carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you will feel much happier with life. Your smile will generate opportunities and with the bad experiences behind you, you can also begin to help other people.

Contact Joe Busuttil at Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling, Melbourne to make an appointment.

Mindfulness everyday breathing.
by Joe B on Tue, June 06, 2017at 23:13 pm

I have started noticing more and more people suffering with stress related conditions at Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling, Melbourne. With more and more people taking an initiative to focus on their mental health, meditation has become increasingly popular. Meditation is one of many practices that not only improves mental health, but also supports overall wellness. You do not need to be an expert to meditate, you simply need a quiet space and a couple of minutes to yourself. Once you start incorporating meditation into your lifestyle, you will begin to notice all of the wonderful benefits that it can have on your mind, body, and spirit:

Physical Changes to Your Brain –
A study conducted in 2011 at Harvard found that meditating for just 8 weeks increases your brain size in three beneficial areas. 1. The left hippocampus which is responsible for your ability to learn and retain information. 2. The posterior cingulate cortex which is responsible for controlling how your mind wanders. 3. The temporoparietal junction, which is responsible for empathy and compassion. Additionally, this same study also found that there were decreases in cell volume in the amygdala, the area of the brain that is responsible for fear, stress and anxiety.

Reduction of Negative Emotions –
Studies have shown that practicing meditation helps you to better manage stress, and also significantly decrease the negative side effects of stress. A recent study found that mindfulness meditation helped people just as much as commonly prescribed anti-depressant drugs. Furthermore, meditation has proven to be helpful in stopping or slowing obsessive thinking, anxiety, depression, and hostility.

Increase in Concentration and Focus –
Meditation “not only changes brain patterns, but it also confers advantages in mental focus that may improve cognitive performance.”

Overall Health Benefits –
Meditation had effects on the body at a genetic level. Meditation could protect the length of your telomeres, which could possibly slow down the aging process.

Increase in Positive Emotions –
Practicing meditation produces positive emotions that increase over time as you practice on a daily basis.

So, how can someone who has never meditated before begin meditating? Here are some simple steps to help get you started:

Where should I meditate? You can technically meditate anywhere you would like — in a chair, bed, on the floor, etc. However, the most optimal and beneficial way to meditate is by sitting on the floor (you can sit on a yoga mat, rug, or pillows) because it keeps you wide awake and allows you to sit for long periods of time.

What do I do with my body? As a beginner meditator, you can criss cross your legs like pretzels if you are sitting on the ground. Your arms can rest on your thighs, and your hands can rest on top of each other and form a cup shape, and your thumbs can touch (it is completely up to you!) What is most important is that your arms feel relaxed. Your back should be straight and your head should be completely level, facing forward. You may meditate with your eyes open or closed. However, for beginners, eyes closed is recommended as it is easier to focus.

How long should I meditate for? Before you begin meditating, it is advised that you set an alarm nearby. This prevents your mind from wondering about how much time is left for the session. For beginner meditations, starting with just 5 minutes is best. You may increase your time spent meditating the more you get use to it. Most peopler recommend meditating anywhere between 10-20 minutes.

What do I do during a Mindfulness Breathing Meditation? It is important to make sure that you are breathing through your nose. The focus should be directed towards your breath. Observe the way the air feels as it is moving through your nostril. Notice the transition from inhale to exhale. Do not judge your observations, simply observe them in the present moment. You will notice that as you are doing this, thoughts will begin to enter your mind, which will be distracting. When you notice your mind wandering, simple redirect your focus back to your breath. This is how you train your mindfulness muscle! It is totally normal to have thoughts come up as you are meditating, especially for beginners. Try not to criticize yourself when it does.

It is important to be aware that the more habitual you make mindfulness meditation, the more benefits you will obtain from it. You will also notice that the more you practice, the more you will have your entire focus on your breath for longer amounts of time. In order to start truly seeing the wonderful benefits of meditation, you should try to meditate on a daily basis. As previously mentioned, it only takes a small amount of time out of your day!

At Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling we assist clients to learn mindfulness and reach a place of comfort in their lives.

Facing your FEARS
by Joe B on Mon, May 29, 2017at 02:37 am

LEAVE BEHIND THE PAST AND EMPOWERING YOUR FUTURE

Have you considered looking your fear straight bin the eye. Maybe utilising counselling or hypnotherapy to combat the thoughts that keep you stuck.

To move forward and evolve as human beings our fears must be challenged, demystified and dismantled. This is a huge part of the Ascension process. We are accelerating so fast in these days of huge transformation, that every fear in the human spectrum of experience is raising its head for us to face , as it wells out from deep within us.

It takes all of our inner strength and courage to face our fears. By allowing fear to control or hinder us we are giving up more than we feared losing in the first place. When we allow fear to hinder us from being you we need to be at the authentic levels we are not disclosing who we really are to ourselves and to the world. It is like disowning a part of ourselves.

Below is a simple meditation exercise to bring fears up with clarity so you can address the root of the fear itself. Many times the fears we have are vague and not at all what we “ think” they are. Explore them, challenge them, and embrace them to move you past old patterns. Moving past fear, brings us into greater clarity and then into more personal power.

•Close your eyes

•Identify the fear. What is it?

•Get in touch with the fear.

•What do you experience and notice about the fear?

•Notice any resistance.

•Give in and let go of resistance consciously. What do you notice about the fear now?

•Imagine a door where on the other side of the door is this fear. Imagine the fear is a long lost friend, something that protected you in the past.

•What is different about the fear now?

•Now open the door and welcome it in. Pay more attention to how it feels. Offer it something, what does it ask for?

•Now open your heart and embrace the fear like a small child. Hold it, embrace it, comfort it. What do you want to say to this fear?

•What is going to be different? What is possible if you are willing to welcome, fully embrace and love this fear as a learning and growth opportunity?

Make a commitment to truly embrace this fear as a learning tool. Make it your friend. Face your fear and overcome inner resistance and do something you have been fearful of doing. Get to know the little voice that reminds you of this fear. By embracing it, you are deliberately choosing your own path. Embracing your fear liberates you to live the life you have always wanted, yet may not have dared to have.

And further, facing your fears and having greater acceptance reprograms the old fears and old habits in your subconscious to higher patterns. The same triggers will not be there as they once were. This way the emotional charge will be cleared, and you will feel a greater relief or neutrality instead. Okay, for many of us… in light of current circumstances….we have some clearing to do!

hypnotherapy can assist you too conquer fear by going straight to the source. Changing limiting beliefs and opening you up top the amazing opportunities around you.

Joe Busuttil
Equator Therapies Melbourne

Face your Fear – Finding the Courage to Shine – Workshop
by Joe B on Tue, April 11, 2017at 03:00 am


28th May, 2017 at 10am – 4pm

$65

370 St Kilda Road
Melbourne 3004

Equator Therapies Melbourne presents this ONE DAY personal development workshop with Joe Busuttil.

Ticket details :

www.eventbrite.com.au/e/face-your-fear-finding-the-courage-to-shine-tickets-33446806298

Anything worthwhile that you can do, will likely scare you.
You probably woke up today wanting more. To do more, be more, or live in a way that lights you up.
But something got in your way, didn’t it? Maybe you stayed small, acted out of what you’re expected to do. Maybe you played it safe, instead of following your heart. Maybe you don’t even know what your heart says half the time because your brain is in the way.
That can change, right now. Keep reading to find out how…
If you ask yourself “Is this all there is?” or feel deflated at the thought of waking up every morning for the next 30 years to do exactly what you’re doing now, you’re not living your dream.
If the first thing you would do if you won the lottery or got diagnosed with cancer is quit everything you’re doing now, you’re cheating yourself.
We all have reasons why we’re not doing what we want, but if you give them a good hard look, most of them boil down to fear.
Imagine if you weren’t afraid.
Imagine having the confidence to take on your greatest projects, and succeed!
Imagine how it would feel to stop worrying what other people think of you or how you compare.
Imagine if you didn’t have to waste time struggling with yourself because you’re too intimidated to get started.
Imagine the relief of letting go of your self-doubt and worry.
Imagine the power of knowing you can cope with any situation that comes along.
Imagine how it would feel to run your own life and go after your dreams, without fear dragging you down and holding you back.
This is true freedom.
And it comes from overcoming your fears.
What you gain by mastering fear
It’s amazing, once you start facing your fears and doing the things you’re afraid of, how gratifying it is. It’s not just being able to do the things you always wanted, although that is very satisfying. It’s also how great you feel about yourself!
You respect yourself more and realize your worth. You no longer need to compare yourself to other people or worry about what they think, because you have confidence in yourself. And you open yourself up to so many more possibilities!
The world opens up for you.
I want this for you, and I know how hard it is to get there by yourself.
When you’re alone and afraid, the fears can feed on each other and multiply until you feel paralyzed. If you’re at all like I was, you may have fears like these.
What if I’m making a fool of myself?
What if I’m being unrealistic? I don’t have it that bad. Maybe I should just be grateful things aren’t worse.
What if there’s something wrong with me and I can’t do any better than this?
What if nothing ever changes and I keep struggling with these same problems and fears forever?
What if I fail?
What if I succeed and everyone hates me for it?
What if everyone finds out how weak and imperfect I am?
When I asked if anyone was interested in learning to overcome your fears, the response blew me away.
You want freedom.
You want to breathe easier.
You want to do what you want.
You want to make a difference in people’s lives.
You want to be able to conquer anything that comes your way.
You want to be happy.
You want to be able to look back on your life and be proud that you took the risks to be your best self and make the most of your life.
I want to see you do all this and more. I want to see you living your dreams, and dreaming bigger and bigger.

What have you got to lose.

Nothing !!!!