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As hard as it gets…..
by Joe B on Tue, January 03, 2017at 21:27 pm

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How to Treat Impotency and Erectile Dysfunction through Hypnosis

Impotence is the inability of a male to achieve an erection or maintain an erection. It is very common and can be helped.

In fact it is the number one male medical sexual complaint, particularly in older men.

Yet it is also a problem that men have trouble talking about because we have a culture that depicts that it never happens to ‘real’ men, which is just silly because it happens to all men at some time.

There are many causes of and cures for impotence.

There is primary impotence when the male has never been able to achieve an erection.

In such cases clinical investigation is essential because there could be physiological problems.

Hormonal levels may be insufficient, blood flow may be restricted so it is unable to reach the penis; there may be return valve issues at the base of the penis that usually keep the blood in the penis, problems with hormones, problems with initiation hormones in the brain and psychological problems that may be blocking sexual desire.

Since I am a clinical hypnotherapist (I also teach hypnotherapists how to use hypnosis within sex therapy) I take a full medical history with erectile dysfunction so that we get a full picture of what is happening with you.

Many men can be afraid to talk to other people about impotence problems but we provide a safe, confidential, professional environment to help you. This is what we do every week in our clinic to help the hundreds of men that contact us for help.

Secondary impotence can occur when sexual function has previously been satisfactory and then the male begins to experience difficulty in getting or retaining an erection.

This may be due to physical changes, lowered hormones, illness, organ dysfunction, vascular collapse and complications, ageing and psychological problems due to physical or psychological trauma.

In cases where there are psychological reasons for erectile dysfunction, I would use sex therapy and hypnotherapy to help change your mindset and allow you to gain or regain erectile function. I also teach hypnotherapists how to use hypnosis in sex therapy.

Some men may put up mental blocks inside their mind that can stop them from getting an erection.

Perhaps you encountered a less than satisfactory sexual experience and it instils a fear response that you activate each time you encounter a sexual oppoturnity.

You begin to associate the thought of sex with fear, apprehension, nervousness and the fear of failure and it become a vicious cycle that you have been unable to break.

It may have become so bad that you have withdrawn from relationships all together.

Hypnosis is a profound and expedient tool to use in these circumstances because we can reach deep into your unconscious mind to find out what is happening.

But knowing that is not enough. There must be reprogramming to the way your body has been working well, so that sex becomes associated with something good and rewarding once again.

This can prove very effective. Many techniques can be employed within the clinical environment to provide erectile dysfunction treatment to help you go forward and have a good sex life.

Don’t suffer alone.

Contact Joe Busuttil at Equator Therapy on 0412 277 488

Bye Bye Depression
by Joe B on Mon, January 02, 2017at 05:11 am

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Depression can be tremendously painful. You may feel stuck, regretful, tired and just unhappy. There are definite behaviors and natural remedies that you can do to help you feel a lot better. Many Americans are depressed these days and many people are taking prescription medication to alleviate their feelings of anxiety and depression. But some people want to try a more natural approach, and luckily there are many things people can do to get rid of depression that don’t involve taking medication.

Don’t Ruminate

Some people have a habit of going over and over an incident in their head. They dissect the situation endlessly and focus on the worst possible scenario. The problem with this is that you’re making yourself even more depressed and it’s totally non-productive. When you find yourself obsessing over something, try to distract yourself, change your thoughts, or meditate. Rumination can be especially bad for mental health, so stop and focus on something else.

Don’t Go There

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People with anxiety and depression tend to catastrophize a situation and freak themselves out way more than they need to. They take a little situation and think of the worst possible outcome, and it’s irrational. For example if you forget to pay your cellphone bill one week, you may think that you’ve lost your mind because you’re too forgetful. Just don’t go there, this behavior only works against you, making you anxious and wreaking havoc on the health of your body.

No Dwelling

Dwelling on the past in a negative way and obsessing does a number on your mental and physical health. You just simply can’t change the past, so dwelling on it is completely unproductive and only serves to hurt you. If you’re upset about something you did in the past, be compassionate with yourself and learn from mistakes or tell yourself you did the best you could with what you had at the time.

Live in the Moment

Focus on your present and stop worrying about the future. Many depressed people think that their future will be a trainwreck. But the truth is you don’t know what is going to happen and nine times out of 10, the horrible future that you predicted couldn’t be more off.

Sleep

Make sure that you’re getting enough sleep. Some experts recommend getting between seven to nine hours of sleep a night in order to function well. Do this by trying to go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Because depression may affect your ability to sleep, try to eliminate all distractions before bedtime, this can include TV and internet.

Set Yourself Up For Success

When you’re depressed you can feel very bad about your ability to take on tasks, which can make you feel unaccomplished. To fight this feeling, it can be wise to make a checklist for something you’d like to accomplish each day, and start small. An example can be making your bed everyday. Once you have accomplished the small goal, you may feel a sense of achievement and gain confidence. You can add on more tasks down the line if you wish.

Combat Your Negative Thoughts

When you’re depressed, your thoughts about yourself can be way off. You may initially think, “I’m so ugly, I’m the ugliest person in the world and everybody thinks so.” You should then combat that thought by trying to rationalize its merit. Are you sure that you’re the ugliest person in the world and that everyone thinks this? The most likely answer is no, this thought just isn’t true. Once you get into the habit of telling yourself the truth, you may begin to feel better.

Switch Up Your Routine

Do something that you don’t normally do. Switching up your routine by trying different things has been known to changes the levels of dopamine in the brain, that is associated with “pleasure, enjoyment and learning,” according to webmd.com. So take a dance class, cooking class or an exercise class and see if your mood changes into a more positive one.

Try Hard to Be Happy

Depressed people may not enjoy activities that they once did and nothing seems to cause pleasure for them anymore. However, you should try to be as positive as you can. It is believed that no longer enjoying activities is just a symptom of the depression, so try anyway

Look on The Bright Side

I have some friends that are so good at looking on the bright sides of situations. They see the silver lining in almost any situation and think in productive ways. Trying to see the silver lining in situations can eliminate bitterness and resentment.

Exercise

Exercise can not be overemphasized. I find that cardio works best to help calm my nerves and help me think clearly. The act of making exercise a priority for your health can help to make you feel better about yourself because you are making it a point to take care of yourself.

Touch

The act of hugging and holding hands with someone can release endorphins, help you to relax and feel happier. It may also reduce blood pressure and your heart rate. So cuddle with a family member or friend and feel the soothing effects.

Keep a Regular Schedule

Make sure you keep your schedule mostly routine to allow for a sense of normalcy. Studies have shown that keeping a normal routine is very important for people who suffer from depression.

Therapy

Cognitive therapy can be extremely effective in helping someone beat depression. The therapist can help to change irrational and unhealthy thoughts into optimistic and productive ones. Therapy works for millions of people and can help you start to feel better.

Write in a Diary

There are certain therapies that teach keeping a mood diary. This is to keep track of positive moments and things that take place in your life. You can write in it everyday or once a week. This diary can help to put your life in perspective and help you to notice that good things do happen to you.

Chiropractic Care

Having regular adjustments can rid the body of stress and tension, and the mere fact that you’re doing something to take care of yourself regularly can make you feel better about yourself.

Acupuncture

There have been some studies that suggest that people with depression that undergo acupuncture either go into remission or improve quite a bit.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

This type of therapy is centered around the notion that thoughts trigger feelings. This therapy has been found to be as effective as medication when treating mild to moderate depression.

Fish Oil

It is thought that people who are deficient in this fatty acid tend to have more mood swings. When people take the fish oil supplement or eat more foods containing the fatty acid, their depression levels may decrease.

Saffron

Studies have shown that this herb may increase serotonin in the brain and be as effective as the medication Prozac, as well as provide less side effects than those taking Prozac.

Remember to consult your physician or chiropractor before taking any health advice.

Getting regular massages can help you to destress and relax. The simple act of making regular appointments means that you’re making yourself a priority, which can help a great deal to lift you out of the dumps.

LIFE + ME = HEALTHY
by Joe B on Mon, January 02, 2017at 05:07 am

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Establishing a healthy lifestyle is a common goal, but it’s not always clear where to begin. The first step is to believe you can make any change you want. Then start making small adjustments in diet, outlook and exercise, and you’re on the way to a healthy lifestyle.

Aim for Good Nutrition, One Step at a Time-
Good nutrition can form the base of a healthy lifestyle. It’s not always easy to change dietary habits, but starting slow and setting small, attainable goals can help make the transition less overwhelming. Start stocking your fridge with healthy choices, one at a time if you need to. Over time, eating healthy foods like vegetables, fruits, lean meats and whole grains will become second nature. As you stock your fridge with these foods, slowly remove junk foods like candy, soda and cookies.

Examine Habits and Set Goals-

Along with dietary habits, examine your other lifestyle choices. If you smoke, use drugs or overindulge in alcohol, cut back or quit. Join a support group if you need to, or visit your doctor about tools that can help you quit. Make short-term goals, like “I am going to go 10 minutes longer between each cigarette.” With each goal attained, be proud of yourself. You may even want to reward yourself with a new outfit, massage or other healthy indulgence.

Address Stress-
Sometimes stress and unhealthy habits go hand in hand, and stress can take its toll. The American Institute of Stress lists dozens of stress symptoms, including sleep problems, headaches and depression. Everyone has some stress, but if it’s taking over your life, consider visiting a counselor who can help you cope with issues. Explore stress-relieving techniques like meditation, deep breathing exercises, guided imagery, self-hypnosis or keeping a journal to release your stressful thoughts.

Get Hooked on Exercise-
Start incorporating exercise into your routine, and aim for at least 30 minutes a day. Exercise not only burns calories and fat while building muscle and bone strength, it releases “feel good” chemicals in your brain, making you want more. Exercise can reduce stress, boost your energy level, strengthen your immune system and slash the risk of many diseases including heart disease, stroke and several chronic illnesses. Start by walking just 10 minutes a day and continue to increase the duration and intensity of your exercise sessions.

Love can find me again…….
by Joe B on Mon, January 02, 2017at 05:02 am

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Compassion for yourself and others goes a long way in looking for love again. Dating is a mindful practice, when and if you are able to do it with some self-reflection, be willing to learn your lessons and look at the process as a grand learning adventure. Of course when I first started dating again after I completed my 18-year marriage, I was fairly clueless and had no idea what I was doing yet. However, over the years I have come up with some mantras that have helped me and my clients maintain perspective. These principles have helped me not only get closer to finding my best partnership, but also become who I want to be as a partner. I would love to share these mantras with you.

1- You have to be invested in the person and process, but not attached to the outcome.
Be committed to fully showing up for your dates and just being IN the moment. We tend to focus so much on evaluating the person or trying to get a second date that we sometimes forget these are people with feelings and who need to feel seen.

2- We all have flaws, you just have to find a set of flaws you can live with.
We all have our quirks, relational weaknesses and past mistakes… and it’s unfair to know this about yourself but refuse to accept anything less than your idea of perfection in others. In fact, this will often keep you from ever finding anyone to love or be loved by. And if you’re hard on yourself for your own flaws, remember that just because your past partner didn’t accept them, doesn’t mean someone else will not.

3- The essence of romance is not in flowers or flowery words, it’s the little thoughtful remembrances, kindnesses and gestures on an ordinary day.
Flowers are nice on occasion and flowery words are always sweet to hear, but without actions followed through behind them, it loses some value. For me, romance is having someone bring you a burger cut into bite size pieces after dental surgery, or remembering your favorite color or changing your oil in the rain because he wants you to drive safely… that is the real stuff on ordinary days. Remaining grateful you found each other, and expressing it, is romantic too.

4- You can only love someone unconditionally in this present moment, but those present moments can add up to forever for some couples.
It seems easy to promise to love someone unconditionally forever when you are in the present moment and mean it… because you probably do. But people change and unexpected situations arise, so we really can only promise unconditional love a day at a time. Some people are lucky enough to be able to maintain that love throughout every change and situation and have it last a lifetime.

5- I would rather trust someone and be wrong than not trust them and be wrong.
You can’t make someone new pay the check your ex wrote. You need to treat your new love without expecting they are just like your last. If you start out the relationship without trusting or making them earn it in unfair ways, you will either sabotage it with every quality person who comes your way, or you will end up only attracting people who aren’t trustworthy.

6- All relationships end until one doesn’t.
Remember this when you start out, so you won’t attempt to make a relationship work that simply doesn’t.

7- Being in a new relationship is personal fear management and that is okay.
Nothing will point out where your insecurities are lurking like a new relationship. It’s okay to be honest with your new partner about them, and doing so will bring vulnerability and intimacy to your relationship. Just be mindful so you don’t attack them when it’s really your stuff you still need to work on and not about them at all.

8- You have to open the door of your heart so love can come walking in.
There is a certain energy that you can create by being open to the possibility of love. You can do some intentional things like not being on your phone while you’re in line for coffee, at the vet with your pet or grocery shopping. Smiling and making eye contact creates openness and approachability. Be out and about, and yes, online dating has a certain energy required too. You just never know when or where a chance meeting will turn into love.

Try on a few of these honest mantras as you look for love in the New Year and see if changing your mindset creates more love in your life, my guess is that it will!

Meditation to Calm the mind
by Joe B on Mon, January 02, 2017at 04:59 am

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An excerpt from Buddha’s Book of Sleep by Joseph Emet

Some people think that the purpose of meditation is to stop the mind. They sit, and they try. Soon they get into a fight with their mind, a fight that they lose. Frustrated, they give up. Do you recognize yourself in this scenario?

Calming the mind is a more appropriate goal, and a good way to do it is by paying attention to the breath. When we are daydreaming, the breath follows the rhythm of our thoughts. That rhythm can be irregular, because we are going from thought to thought, from one thing to another. As we continue to follow the breath instead of our thoughts, the breath gets into a steady, regular rhythm.

Usually we follow our thoughts without any attention to the breath. Here, we reverse that — we follow our breath. At the beginning, we treat our thoughts a little bit like the way we treat the radio in the background. As we do other things, we are aware that the radio is playing, but we do not follow it actively. For example, when the announcer says, “Go and buy that car right now, because it is so amazing,” we do not drop everything and rush out to buy it. We have learned to take an attitude of sophisticated detachment with regard to the radio. Now we cultivate the same detached attitude toward our thoughts.

Our work in meditation right now is concentrating on the breath. This means staying with the breath and the sensations of the breath continuously. I don’t know if you have ever followed a single breath from end to end and paid attention to all the sensations that occur. One single breath can make you aware of your posture, of how tight your belt is, and of any tension in your abdominal muscles.

The breath is like a swing on the playground. As you breathe in, first it accelerates. Then it slows down near the end. Then it comes to an unstable stop and starts going again in the other direction. The speed is always changing. To notice all this, you need not only awareness, but also concentration. You need to concentrate so that you are not only aware during brief moments of this cycle, but you are continuously aware of it during the whole cycle, cycle after cycle.

I Can Feel My Breath in a Number of Ways:

I can feel it in my diaphragm.
I can feel my clothes adjusting as my diaphragm changes shape.
I can feel the rush of air in my nostrils.
I can also feel a coolness around my nostrils as I breathe in.
If you have trouble noticing that last item, put your finger horizontally against your nostrils for a few seconds. You will feel the change of temperature as you breathe in and out.

By concentrating on the breath, we are offering the mind something other than thoughts to chew on. This works better than fighting with it to get it to slow down.

Within a few minutes, something different starts to happen: the breath finds its natural rhythm. In normal wakefulness, thoughts are zipping through the mind, and the breath is irregular and staccato. Now the breath follows a more regular rhythm, like that of the waves on the beach. Like the waves, the breath comes from somewhere we don’t know. Then it goes inside, and gets lost, like the waves that get absorbed into the sand. Some of the water gets returned back to the ocean, but it is not exactly the same. Now it has cleaned the beach and is carrying back some debris and also the warmth of the sand with it. The breath has also just cleaned the body, and the out breath is warm and full of carbon dioxide. You can let yourself be guided by this mental imagery. Involve all your senses and now bask in the sunshine on that beach for a few minutes and enjoy the whish of the waves.

Another metaphor: What is happening in the mind at this point is also a little bit like the difference between city driving and long- distance driving. In city driving, there is much stopping and starting and emotions like impatience or irritation. When you settle into long-distance driving, all those calm down. The rhythm changes.

During this breathing exercise, you may find that, after a while, concentration comes naturally. At the beginning, concentration required effort. Now this natural rhythm of the breath takes over. Thoughts lose their urgency at this stage.

MEDITATION EXERCISE TO CALM THE MIND

Read this and other meditation texts slowly, with a short pause between instructions.

The past has already gone and the future is yet to come.
I am concentrating on being peaceful, happy, and free in this present moment.

Now I’m concentrating on being aware of each breath.
My attention on the breath is continuous.
I follow the breath as it begins, and my abdomen starts to expand.
I continue to pay attention as my abdomen rises and falls with each breath,
like a child going high and low on a swing.

Like a swing, my breath slows down at each end.
I follow it all the way as it slows down, and starts again.

I embrace my breath with all my care and attention,
like a mother holds her baby.
I do not drop the baby.
Thoughts stay in the background.

I enjoy the rhythmic rise and fall of my abdomen;
I enjoy staying in the here and the now.
I have stopped running forward and backward.

My mind keeps producing thoughts; that is its nature.
I do not follow the thoughts.
I concentrate on my breath.

I’m comfortable and at ease.
With each breath, I let go of tension somewhere in my body and mind.

I’m aware that thoughts can bring tension to my face.
With each breath, I relax my face muscles and smile.

There are sensations in my body, I accept them. I am aware of my posture.
I am aware of the rush of air around my nostrils as I breathe in.

If there are sounds, I do not react to them.
I just notice them and let them go.
I continue to enjoy my breathing peacefully.

A river of feelings and thoughts is flowing, but I am not drowning in it.
The concentration on the breath is like the anchor that
prevents the boat from drift ing.

Focusing on my breath keeps me from getting lost in thought.
I notice sounds and skin sensations without reacting to them.

I smile at disturbances such as memories, little itches, and noises.
Smiling relaxes me. I feel content.

With each breath I arrive in the here and the now—
I’m sitting upright, breathing comfortably.

My mind is peaceful, my body free of tension.
I am calm and rested.
I feel free. I feel at home.

How to prpeare for New Years resolutions!
by Joe B on Wed, November 30, 2016at 06:07 am

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Christmas is almost here. Your shopping is nearly complete. Friends and relatives are making plans to get together with you in the next couple of weeks. After all the season’s greetings have come to an end, it will be time to ring in a new year. If you are planning on making a New Year’s resolution, you’ll want to set yourself up for success ahead of time. Here are a few tips for preparing to be successful with all your New Year’s resolutions.

Resolution: Get healthy

If your goal is to get healthy and add fitness into your life in the new year, then it is important to create a situation that provides for your success. Toss out or donate all the food items that you won’t be eating soon. Do it before January 1 so you can hit the ground running. Create meal plans for the entire month which covers all meals. Type those meal plans out and post them on your fridge. By preparing for a full month, you’ll give yourself plenty of time to create a habit. Don’t forget to create a plan for working out and be ready to start as soon as you can after the ball drops!

Resolution: Pay off debt

One of the top resolutions set every year involves finances. Millions of people plan to get out of debt, increase savings or grow wealth but struggle during the year for a number of reasons. If your hope is to get your finances in order next year, there are steps you can take this December to prepare for success in all of 2017.

Gather documentation for all expenses you have had over the year. Take a look at a year’s worth of statements and create a comprehensive list so that you can fully prepare for any expenditure that may develop in the next 365 days. It might sound overwhelming, but the effort will pay off.

If you are hoping to begin working on debt reduction on the first but have never created a budget or aren’t sure the best method for paying down debt, develop a solid plan to curb your spending. You might want to start by tracking your spending and looking for items to cut. Keep those tips in mind before heading out on the 31 and you’ll be starting the new year off feeling great about your plan.

See what you bills you can get rid of and which ones you can negotiate down. Then start to tap away at your debt, once at a time. You might even develop some momentum once you start paying off larger and larger chunks. To stay motivated, remember why you are working so hard. If you keep your focus on the financial freedom that a debt-free life brings, it will be easier to sacrifice in the short-term to get there.

Resolution: Get organized

Many people have hopes of getting organised and resolve to do that every new year. They struggle to bring their home out of the chaos and into the calm, serene home they envision.

Whether you are hoping to lose weight, increase your exercise, get organized, take on a new hobby, end a bad habit or take control of your finances, the key to success for any New Year’s resolution is planning. Create a plan now that will carry you through the entire month of January. Those first 31 days will help you establish a routine, force it to become second nature and improve your chances of success. Good luck!

Equator Hypnotherapy and Counselling
0412 277 488

xx
Joe Busuttil

Using Meditation and Mindfulness as a Therapy Tool
by Joe B on Tue, November 29, 2016at 03:34 am

mindfulnesstraining101headerHypnotherapy HQ is please to present – Using Meditation and Mindfulness as a Hypnotherapy Tool with well known Mindfulness and Meditation guru Georgia Jans.

Sunday 5th Feb, 2017 – 10am – 4pm

Many therapists have come to regard cultivating moment-to-moment awareness as a curative mechanism that transcends diagnosis, addresses underlying causes of suffering, and serves as an active ingredient in most effective psychotherapies. The clinical value of mindfulness interventions has been demonstrated for many psychological difficulties, including depression, anxiety, chronic pain, substance abuse, insomnia, and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

And it doesn’t matter which therapeutic approach we take, be it hypnotherapy, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, humanistic, or any other. Mindfulness practices can be tailored to fit the particular needs of our patients. Though historically mindfulness practices have been presented as one-size-fits-all remedies, as the field matures we’re beginning to understand how these practices affect different individuals with different problems, how to modify them in different clinical situations, and how to work with the inevitable obstacles that arise.

Using Meditation and Mindfulness as a Therapy Tool – Outline:

1 What is meant by meditation versus mindfulness

2 Why recommend meditation and mindfulness to clients

3 Benefits of meditation and mindfulness

4 Different types of meditation and mindfulness – this will include an iRest practical

5 Meditation and mindfulness toolbox

6 What to be aware of when introducing meditation and mindfulness

7 How to get clients to meditate or be mindful– introducing simple practices; teaching clients to use meditation and mindfulness in everyday life

8 Handling client feedback – obtaining and using client feedback effectively

9 Building on clients experiences with meditation and mindfulness

10 Personal experiences with meditation and mindfulness

11 Resources

Georgia Jans has over 10 years experience as a mindfulness, meditation and yoga teacher. Her unique teaching style will impresss you as she guides the therapist in the art of using MINDFLNESS in the therapy room. She is a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist and coach, running a successful business in Melbourne’s west.

Tickets:

Noticing the Signs before crisis strikes.
by Joe B on Fri, October 07, 2016at 04:32 am

 

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Synchronicity is a term that came into popular use through Swiss psychotherapist Carl Jung. In his life and during sessions with clients he experienced “meaningful coincidences” where two or more signs, that occurred randomly, were also connected by meaning (not by cause).

Synchronicity Example

A person may dream about a unique symbol and then receive a card in the mail the next morning with the same symbol on it. The symbol may be a reminder or a sign pointing that person in a specific direction. The coincidence is the appearance of the symbol in the dream and then in physical reality. The meaning is derived by the feelings, thoughts and actions it inspires. Synchronicity is when the meaning of a coincidence is applied to life. Coincidence in action is synchronicity.

Synchronicity as Meaningful Signs

Synchronicity helps us know if we are on the right track (or not). It offers us an opportunity to test our choices and find out whether they are good for us. When our body, heart and mind are aligned, we are more likely to experience synchronicity. Ultimately, synchronicity is multiple signs focusing our attention to a path.

Imagine you are on a path in the woods. Typically, you will read the signs you come across. If you see a sign that says, “Danger! Live Crocodiles! Go ahead at your own Risk!”, you may consider turning around (although I’ve been known to keep on down the path). If you continue along the path, your senses may be heightened and you may even come across a crocodile. Or, you may avoid danger due to your heightened state. The point is that you’ve been warned and it is your choice whether and how (with awareness) to continue down the path or change course.

The signs that show up along our path in life can lead us down different paths. A sign may be a person who resembles a person from our past, an animal that shows itself to us during a walk or a quote that you hear over and over in the span of a day. Synchronicity is when we have more than one sign show up with the same meaning.

If we listen, pay attention and follow a sign we may be led to more. If we don’t pay attention, then we may end up being distracted onto other paths and/or going down a path that may not serve us in a holistic way. Typically, a path connected to synchronicity has a higher potential to serve our whole self – body, heart and mind.

When we are noticing a sign there is usually a deeper knowing and a feeling that goes with it. It may be the distinct feeling of flowing with life in ease and acceptance. Or, it may be the feeling that you need to wake up now and get back on track! When I’m not getting any signs…well, it feels more like I’m not living my life fully.

Different signs, over time, tell us different things. I may see a heart shape in the clouds as I’m walking and then meet a person in the park who I have a strong connection with. Through this synchronicity I learn to trust that heart in the clouds as an affirmation of strong connections.

Science and Synchronicity

Carl Jung defined synchronicity as “meaningful coincidence”. Many in science view synchronicity as apophenia or the experience of seeing false patterns in random or meaningless data.

Lets be clear that both synchronicity and apophenia exist.

The trap of synchronicity is to create connections that are misleading.
The trap of apophenia is to refuse to accept valid connections that lead to important insights and improved life choices.
How do we tell the difference between synchronicity and false connections?

Live the experiences and practice!

An open and relaxed mind is critical for synchronicity. It is easy to force signs into connections which aren’t relevant. We can see many potentials and possible paths ahead of us. Yet, we walk only one physical path at a time. Deciding which signs are relevant to follow can be overwhelming if our mind is not clear.

With a clear mind we will simply understand the sign, know the path forward and step into it. We won’t choose to follow a path out of worry, doubt or a desire for life to be a specific way.

Because synchronicity works with “what might be” or potential, we must hold it lightly. We are on a current path, yet we have not chosen the future path.

Learning to work with synchronicity is an art. We watch for the signs, take actions and test them over time.

Benefiting from synchronicity requires both learning how to see the big steps in your life path expansively while using facts and a sense of reason to refine your smaller next steps ahead.

Seeking Signs and Synchronicity

There are infinite possibilities for how synchronicity will come to you. It may come in the form of a song over the radio that helps you shift frustration into courage and motion. A synchronicity may be a cool breeze that catches your attention and reminds you to smile.

While shamanic cultures have included synchronicity as a part of how they navigate life, Carl Jung found a gap in western society when it came to these non-repeatable (hence unscientific) experiences. Below are some tips for recognizing and integrating signs and synchronicity into your life.

You may also enjoy taking our Shamanism 101 course or trying a dream session.

Seeking Signs and Synchronicity Tips

A clear mind helps everything, including living a life with synchronicity. Practices like meditation help keep the mind clear. The less distracted you are with thoughts, worries and doubts, the more likely you will notice the signs along the way.

To practice noticing signs, ask a question about your life and go for a walk in nature. Repeat the question as you walk and see where your attention is drawn to. What are the first four signs you notice? And, what meaning can you associate with each sign? If the answer isn’t clear, ask the question in a new way and try again.

When a sign shows up, follow it. Pay attention and listen for a deeper meaning. Be curious and see if the sign has a significance you can apply to your life. In this way, a sign opens us up to synchronicity.

Check in with how you feel about the sign. Does it send a warning to you? Or, does it feel electrified? Does it feel good? Noticing your feelings when you come across a sign will help turn it into a meaningful message, inspiration or action.

Play with the energy of the sign. What does this sign want you to do? Explore the possibilities. Do some research or start a creative project to honor the sign and turn it into synchronicity.

Take action and let the universe know you are paying attention. Follow through with what feels right. As you take actions, look for additional signs you are on the right track – the magical path of synchronicity.

Journal about the signs you notice in your life. Keep track of when you see signs, how they feel and what meaning you derive from them. Over time, you may see patterns in the signs and synchronicities that show up.

Don’t give up. Onipa’a means persistence in Hawaiian. Remember that seeking synchronicity will bring more magic into your life. Be persistent!

Joe Busuttil
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