You have to come to terms with the truth that life can be really cruel occasionally, even if you choose to live in total illusion for the rest of your time here on Earth. Every person you have ever loved or cared about will die finally. You will lose jobs, experience, and mental breakdowns, and no matter what you do, you will suffer.
After surviving on this, I have come to know and accept the three most cruel facts of life. For 25 years, unlike previous films covering a similar subject, I want to provide you some possible remedies and coping mechanisms for these unavoidable unpleasant facts. You will sooner enjoy all that life has to offer the sooner you can stop being angry or unhappy that this is how life is and accept it.
Truth with Love
Love without conditions does not exist. Like that. Chris Rock’s one stand-up comedy act is quite popular for quotes in YouTube comments, and the act states, Just women, children, and pets are loved unconditionally. Under the right conditions, a man is merely love; I suppose this is true as well.
Specifically when discussing women, dogs and animals are loved unconditionally, but, as a male or anyone who ends up falling in love with a woman, you often only end up falling in love with that lady with the condition that she provides something too. Now, it might not be exactly the same reason a woman likes a man.
She offers you material, resources, and protection, so you most likely do not love her. But the only way you even get to the point of liking a woman is because she does in fact offer something for you. She gives you belonging, intimacy, and a source of pleasure. Stated differently, she gives you a particular impression about yourself.
And in that sense, your love for her is contingent. In the same vein, one could even contend that dogs and other animals are liked, provided they offer anything good for your life. If you are with a woman right now and she is not satisfying your wants after you have told her, or you are merely in the relationship since she makes you feel like you are worth something. I know I shouldn’t even have to say this.
You have to get out of the relationship immediately. Up until I was roughly twenty, I thought of partnerships as a fairytale where we would love one another regardless of what the other person did or did not do. No matter how much my external look changed or if I quit working or chose to do whatever with life, a woman loved me for who I was at my core.
Truth in life
To be true love, she would have to love me totally without conditions. But reality just does not operate this way. She’s most likely going to lose attraction for you and not want to be with you if you quit looking after yourself, lose your work, all of your money, and fail to try to climb out of that rut. You’re a bum then.
First starting the relationship, you will most likely lose attraction for her if your girlfriend stops giving these same types of emotions or intimacy. You know what I’m talking about, or starts acting differently than she used. And this is not bad either. Your lover is not required to remain in love with you regardless of circumstances.
Other times that person will truly love you but will start to fall out of it; occasionally you will actually find yourself in relationships with lousy, disloyal people who simply want to take advantage of your wallet situation or other material resources. With the person you develop, and that transpires.
That sounds rather natural. Now, that doesn’t imply you should never do things for your partner without expecting anything in return; you should. I’m not doing it randomly out of kindness for my partner since I want something from her. There is no condition underlying any one element of the relationship.
Truth about unconditional loved
You are living in a fairytale, though, if you believe that every single element of your relationship should be overflowing with unbroken love. That raises the issue, then, given all love is conditional, what is true love anyway? And when you came upon it, how did you know? Knowing all this, how can you avoid letting yourself feel unworthy?
People that show you interest seem to only want you to supply something for them. Though virtually always conditional, except from family members, I have come to recognise that a connection can greatly improve the quality of your life. Once you are beyond the honeymoon phase and all the butterfly emotions that person generates in you when you first start seeing one another, you have an opportunity to build and cooperate to enhance one another.
It takes time to have the closest connection you have ever known, be vulnerable around without being criticised, and have someone who can encourage you and help you think beyond the box. This is also the reason I think most of the time true love isn’t found. It’s made when you both have a lifetime mission that fits each other and you support one another to remain on that path and accomplish.
That, I think, is Alled’s most true love. With that kind of love, you and your partner will experience wealth, happiness, and prosperity; thus, both of you must meet the requirements for that kind of love. I only want to add an honourable mention of terrible reality to this list and say that, despite your best efforts, looks do matter and things like pretty privilege do exist.
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Truth about appearance
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Just heard me out. I was so fervently looking for someone, anyone really, in my adolescent years. Who would pay attention to what I had to say and would daily listen to my problems? I would strive to let everyone with open ears, friends, and peers know about my issues. I would put my whole heart into trying to make other people understand me when I complained about being too exhausted to work out or go to the gym.
Most people would merely nod their heads and provide broad advice like, Yeah, buddy, that sucks, but I’m sure you’ll get through it. And when someone said anything like that, I felt as though they didn’t really care. Actually, it felt as though hardly anybody really gave what I was going through any thought. I became sour when I realised this.
I just did not want to face this truth; hence, I had a great DOR attitude and considered all people as terrible monsters who cannot be trusted and who do not care about anyone except themselves. Listen; I understand how lonely this is. Can be experienced when one feels invisible in this world since nobody wants to comfort or listen to you.
It fuels your impulse to give up entirely. Whether in person or online, I know you’re looking for that one person who will let you rant about your issues and who will make you feel as though they care. But right now, hardly anybody is going to be as excellent of a listener as yours.
Truth about Sadness
Actually, everyone is really sad right now. Although it is a terrible thing, everyone is most likely going through at least some degree what you are currently going through given the crazy working hours, remote employment, debt, and global catastrophe. Sadly, every human being is geared to at least some extent to prioritise their own survival when they feel they can’t concentrate on anything else than their survival since they are continually over.
From the right angle, it makes it far more difficult for them to care about issues of other individuals. One can get great release from this. When I came to see that everyone was coping with issues just like mine. Like I was invisible and alone, the last thing I could feel.
I did not battle alone at all. Actually, hundreds of millions of individuals all around could identify with just what I was going through. And strangely enough, learning about their difficulties improved my attitude towards my own issues. I thus offer the more terrible and unpleasant tales from my history.
Hearing that you are not alone in your struggle relating to someone and that someone has conquered the same thing you are struggling with literally lights up the parts of your brain that make you more comfortable and secure without the need to vent your problems about someone or need them to care about.
Though I would be unable to care about all of your unique issues as one human, honestly, I do give a shit about helping everyone who views my films achieve their power and potential. The most important thing I have come to see, though, is that nobody even gives your troubles any thought.
Your troubles will be resolved only if you start to act and realise you are not by yourself in your struggle. And right now, you are quite definitely not alone as much as you believe you are. Though most people seem to not give a damn about your issues, you can still find groups of people battling the same exact challenges who are eager to hear what you have to say and offer possibly helpful advice both online and in person.
And in truth, there are people notwithstanding what I have mentioned. And I wish to assist you in becoming better. It’s great to care if you see someone struggling; so, you should start to break past your more egocentric, selfish nature and start to follow the trend of people not caring as much as they should. Help without expecting anything in return.
More people like them is what we need, but above all, this terrible fact should educate you that you should stop depending so much. On other people helping you to address your issues so they might be resolved. And I would want to reiterate it one more, as it is so vital to grasp. Your troubles will be resolved if you quit depending so much on other people’s concerns about them.
If almost nobody else is interested in your issues, then it is up to you and only you to make your life run to your best advantage. You might be a victim, a legitimate victim of circumstances. Your parents might have messed up your life and passed on their suffering to you. After you did everything right, your partner might have turned around and cheated on you.
You can have some kind of handicap or have been born into financially awkward circumstances. All things are definitely not your responsibility; however, if you’re still looking for someone or anything outside of you to suddenly solve your issue,. You will have to wait always. I consider this the last truth since it is the last realisation you need to acquire to enable your perfect existence instead of allowing life to pass by.
Truth about perception
Your perspective on what occurs to you and how the universe runs is the one thing you have whole and complete control over. You could have taken all I have said in one of two as you have approached the finish of this video. First would be disgusted and annoyed. You may think, Wow, I suppose everyone is essentially just selfish assholes without regard.
Unconditional love
There is no unconditional love; life always works against me. The point of anything is what? Alternatively, you might have followed the second path. You may freely agree that life is unjust, full of grievances, diseases, heartbreaks, and everything you thought to be unpleasant. And you may understand that all of them are only half the jigsaw; they are required for one to first even feel love, happiness, and other wonderful things.
After all, you can decide to maximise your present circumstances and quit living as a victim of your past events. You have another choice here. Are you going to continue whining about how you lack friends, money, respect, or status needed to be content? Alternatively, will you be your own hero, breaking the bonds of victimisation by assuming complete control over your life?
Not more potent is there anything. Then assume this posture. Clearly now, this is simpler said than done. It’s not easy to take responsibility over how you respond to and move on from something terrible that happens to you, especially if that something is not your fault. But telling yourself you’re not capable of reaching that place because this happened or you lack enough of this is merely playing the position of the victim once more to break the chains of victimhood. One must first understand when they’re allowing victimhood to govern.
Tell yourself, that never should have happened to me when you start to find yourself in an unwelcome circumstance; feel resentful over what you went through in the past or sulk in the present. That makes me never be good enough; it also makes me never find happiness or contentment. That makes me unable to do what I wish.
You are portraying the victim. Even if a lot of those factors are really contributing to your troubles, you are being a victim when you start to attribute your problems on things outside of you, such as the way society has built up social media, post-modern individualism, inflation, toxic people, or something similar.
And once you recognise this, you have to ask yourself right away, What can I control? How should I see things in a constructive and upbeat light? And using what I have, what can I do? Sure? Asking these questions helps you to pass the authority from the person, place, or object to yourself. That is when you will start to see significant transformation when you completely accept that these things have happened and will continue to happen and make the most of a world that wants you to yield to its faults, troubles, and pleasure sensations as much as possible.
And you will come to see that you have always been the person thing or push you have been relentlessly seeking for to at last begin to start improving your life. I greatly appreciate all the patrons of this channel on Patreon. Should you not know what this is, it is a site apart from YouTube where I am releasing unique content; if you would want to check that out, you could speak with me one-on-one over the phone on there.
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